Q: Would it be permissible to attend a family re-union? All the family is not into strict pardah but the few that are, will be together. Will it be permissible to attend? I want to go with the intention of strengthening family ties as this is the first time in five years that all the family will be together. But I don't want to go if I will be sinful?
Q: I am very ashamed because I did a big mistake. I want to ask about that. One day I went to a party and I drunk too much then I came back to my home and I slept at midnight. I woke up and I saw my step sister sleeping and I touched her parts and she woke up. She told my step mom and my father and then through me out from the home. I am not understanding what to do now. I was drunk that's why this happened. They through me out its ok, but sir one thing is hitting my heart one by one I felt like my life has stopped. Please tell me what to do? How can I manage my life and what should I do? I am very sad.
Q: My situation is as follows: I have one brother who is seven years younger than me. Just a little more about us. I am married with three kids all under 5 years old. He is two years married and intend moving in with my parents soon but they plan on renovating it into a double story because they want their space and privacy and they want the upstairs section to be completely separate from the rest of the house, separate entrance, no access from main house to the upstairs etc. I have had a bit of an issue with this because I feel my brother is doing this to benefit off my parents in terms of saving on costs like water electricity etc because if he was serious about taking 'care' of my parents, why does he want everything to be so completely separate from my parents? Why not just buy a separate house? He says he is going to pay for the renovating of that part of the house but knowing him, he will probably seek assistance from my father as well if he runs short. My dad has in the past been paying a lot of his expenses, all his wedding expenses, furniture for his current apartment, and recently last September when he and his wife went with my parents for hajj as well, my father paid for his haj as well. he qualified as a chartered accountant last year and is only recently been earning a CA salary. The 5 years before this he was doing his articles and earning very little. I don't think my dad is going to establish a will so if he doesn't, my question is, should my parents pass on one day before us, what happens to the house? Does my brother just inherit it all because he is going to be living in the house?
Q: If one just built up a lot of sweat after playing sports and it's time for Salaah, can he perform his Salaah with all that perspiration?
Q: In the case of divorce, which parent has the right of custody of the children and up to what age? If a certain parent has the right of custody then can that parent prevent the other parent from visiting the children? Similarly, I would like to know which parent has to provide maintenance for the children. If the children have wealth, can their wealth be used for the maintenance? What exactly does maintenance entail and will the expenses of the children's education also fall under maintenance?
Q: Some people were having alcohol and they dropped it on my wooden dining table. How can I make it pure? Will cleaning with soap and wiping with wet cloth make it pure as washing it will not be possible.
Q: Thanks for replying for not celebrating birthdays and anniversaries. But if someone invited us, then we should not join them and make an excuse right? And if we just had a dinner at home with family and give a gift to the kid and have a home made cake, is it permissible? Secondly, if someone joins the birthday party then does he come out of the fold of Islam, his wife is haraam on him and he has to renew his nikaah? Thirdly, by wearing shirts and trousers and not keeping a beard are we not emulating/copying the kuffaar? Are we not supposed to refrain from wearing kuffaar outfits?
Q: If a person expresses in a threatening way in front of a relative over telephone (not in presence of his wife) that he will give his wife three talaqs, then what is the ruling?
Q: The following appears in an article on the Website of the Jamiat. Is all of this correct?
Tolerating Natural Toddler Antics
Babies grow older to become active and energetic toddlers (known nowadays as ‘preschoolers’), who love climbing on to the laps and backs of adults and playing “rough house”. It is well known that the Prophet not just allowed children in this age-range inside his masjid during obligatory congregational prayers, but also patiently tolerated their antics during prayers, even if these antics caused noise or disturbance.
Reported by Abdullah ibn Shaddad from his father: “The Messenger of Allah (peace be upon him) came out to lead us in either maghrib or ‘isha’ one night, and he was carrying Hassan or Husain. The Messenger of Allah came forward and put (the child) down, then he said takbir and started to pray. During the prayer, he prostrated and made his prostration long. My father said: “I raised my head and I saw the child on the back of the Messenger of Allah whilst he was prostrating, so I returned to my prostration.” When the Messenger of Allah finished praying, the people said: “O Messenger of Allah, during your prayer you prostrated for so long that we thought something had happened or that you were receiving Revelation.” He said: Nothing at all happened, but my son was riding on my back and I did not want to disturb him until he had had enough. (An-Nisa’i)
This hadith is another great example of how tolerant the Prophet was regarding children’s naughtiness. Imagine a small child in the age-range 2-4 (who can be carried easily) climbing on to the back of a masjid’s imam during prostration nowadays. What do you think his reaction would be? Yet, Prophet Muhammad lengthened his prostration just to let the child continue his enjoyment and innocent play, hereby causing some concern and undoubtedly a bit of chagrin to the worshippers praying behind him in the congregation.
Q: I would like to know is not loving yourself haraam or a sin? I don't like myself, in fact I hate myself. I'm soo tired of having this ugly body and looks. I don't love myself at all and I never look after myself. e.g I don't care if i cut my hand with knife, I dont care if I eat too much and get fat, I don't care if something harms me. I don't care if Ii get serious illness or cancer etc. Because people around me have hurt me so much with their words and behaviour which makes me feel like this ungrateful and hating myself. I'm tired of feeling ugly, having no confidence and selfesteem. I'm tired of hearing people making negative comments and thoughts about how I look. I'm tired of crying and living lonely. I think Allah also hates me, thats why he never helps me or listen to my duas. I want to be happy at least when I die. In my grave and in jannah which is why I am asking is it gunaah to hate yourself and how you look? How can I overcome this hate feeling for myself?