Janaazah

Q: Can one send esaal-e-thawaab to Rasulullah صلى الله عليه وسلم? For example, when one recites/listens to Quran, can one send the reward?

Q: I came across that death terminates marriage. But I have seen a hadith that our Nabi (sallallahu alaihi wasallam) said to Ayesha (radhiyallahu anha) that if she dies first then he will give her a bath. Also, Ali (radhiyallahu anhu) gave Fatima (radhiyallahu anha) a bath. Can you give me authentic ahaadith and proofs that death terminates marriage? In afterlife, will husband and wife would be together in jannah. So it is really confusing.

Q:

1- In some Kitaabs stories are mentioned of pious people getting buried next to sinful people due to the punishment on the sinful it has effected the pious in the grave and caused the pious to get old and have white hair etc, is it proven from Quran and ahadith that burying a pious person next to a sinful person will harm the pious person in any way?

2- Is it proven from Quran and ahadith that a person who has passed away feels and knows when he is bathed, shrouded etc and who is doing it?

Q: I have heard that the person who dies while blood comes out of his mouth dies the darjah of a shaheed (martyr). Is this true?

Q: I have converted to being a Muslim from an Ismaili (Ismailee) sect and Alhumdulillah, my wife and my children have also converted. I can't thank Allah Ta'ala enough for His guidance and mercy! However, unfortunately none of the other members of my family have accepted the truth. My parents, my sister, my in-laws, and my aunts and uncles are still following the Ismaili sect.

My question is about attending the funeral of these members. Especially attending the funeral of my parents. I know I can't step foot into their place of worship, so what am I to do? Should I stand outside while they do their activity, to give a shoulder to my parents and accompany them to the burial grounds and then leave? Can I take part in the naaaz-e-janaazah? This is something that is of great concern to me and I want to make sure I do the right thing.

Q: I read in tafseer Ibn kathir that, Salah will be a invalid if Surah Fateha is not recited in it. Is it permissible to recite Surah Fateha in Salaatul Janazah?

Q: Surah Fatihah must be read in every rakah of Salah to be complete, isn't? Then in Salatul Janazah why Surah Fatihah is not read, what if we read it ?

Q: When filling a bucket with water for ghusal of a deceased, I put my hand inside the water to check the temperature of the water, does the water become must'amal? 

Q: Can a son see the satr of his deceased father? The reason is that there was soo much mess because of Diarrhoea, the person had to look and wipe because the initial wiping was just smearing the faeces in different places. This is for a specific case only, not for all cases.

Q: My question is that, if nikah has terminated with the death of the husband then why can she still bath her deceased husband?