Janaazah

Burying relatives in the same grave and desiring to be buried near the pious

Q:

1. What is the status of burying relatives together in the same grave? For example, husband and wife, or grandmother and grandson, or even cousins etc. Is it a matter of ease and identification or is there benefit for the mayyit and the like?

2. Also, will it be right to delay the burial so that an existing grave could be dug up in order to bury relatives together? If so, how long of a delay will be tolerable? In other words, the qabrastaan has a grave open already but a relative grave is wanted instead, so that has to be dug out and prepared and that constitutes some delay.

3. Is it wrong to have a desire of being buried with a certain person, because it means one does not desire burial near Nabi (Sallallahu Alayhi Wasallam) in Madina Shareef? For example, a person desires that he is buried near his mother. Or a person desires that he is buried near his pious Shaykh or pious Ustaad. So does this desire constitute disrespect to Nabi (Sallallahu Alayhi Wasallam) because nobody is greater than Nabi (Sallallahu Alayhi Wasallam) and/or burial in Medina Shareef?

Like someone says, "I want to be buried near my Shaykh" - so is that constituted disrespect to Nabi (Sallallahu Alayhi Wasallam) and Madina Shareef?" I am asking based on arguments someone gave to me.