Advice

Q: My father in law can’t move by himself so he uses diapers but he always takes off his diapers in front of me and the kids even sometimes he passes urine without asking to close the doors. What should I do?

Q: I am a teenager, but I don't read salaah or Qur'aan anymore, and my parents don't enforce it. Whilst living with my grandmother, it was enforced. I don't want to lose my faith. Reading salaah and Qur'aan are becoming difficult. My questions are:

1- how do I regain my faith and just become a better Muslim overall?

2- what books (excluding the Qur'aan) would you recommend for a Muslim to read regardless of the situation?

3- If a person were to begin learning arabic, how would you suggest they go about it?

Q: What should a person do when they are unnecessarily scolded or taunted just because they speak the truth or cant stand injustice and those doing so are one's elders in authority? Should a person speak up when he finds some wrongdoing or be numb and don't react and be a hypocrite for the sake of survival in a negative environment which unfortunately has become common in our modern society. What does Islam say about it as there are many people who deal with difficult ones either for the sake of jobs or family peace and work.

Q: As an inexperienced youngster, if I need advice regarding something, not a fiqh aspect and nothing to do with halaal and haraam, but just personal advice that I wish to seek from elders... preferably people with deeni knowledge, can I send an email to more than one Mufti or Moulana that I trust? Not to cause differences or confusion amongst people but just simply to understand the different wisdoms and advices that each one can give that could potentially greatly benefit me.

Q: I know the sin of talking bad about ones parents is huge and one can be cursed by Allah. My husband swore his father behind his back for switching on his house alarm when he told him not to.

He also says things behind his fathers back like he gave him nothing and did nothing for him and says similar things about his mother. He never tells them that to their faces and doesnt act rude to them but his not talkative or friendly to them.

I'm just worried if he is cursed for saying such things then his my husband and I dont want to live or be married to someone who bad things will happen to. What should I do?

Q: My husband has recently demanded that I start working, as he feels that I need to be independent. Before, when I was working, he wanted me to stop as he felt that I was slacking in my marital duties.

Also, when I was working, he expected me to buy all the household appliances and furniture and groceries because my salary was more than his. However, since I have not been working he has still insisted that I contribute my savings to the monthly bills. He gives me a nafaqah amount that is less than half of what he wants me to spend every month. I'm at a loss as he refuses to listen to reason because in his eyes he gives me nafaqah so he's not in the wrong at all. What can I do?

Q: Girl had a relationship in past and now she got married and she is true to her husband but her husband came to know of her past relationship and he seeks a divorce. What does Islam says about this situation?

Q: I am a 28 year old single woman who works full time. I moved in with my grandmother when I was 14 as I left my home after being sexually abused by my step father. My mother chose not to believe me and continued to live with him.

I am deeply unhappy with where I am living. My grandmother and uncles resent me being there. I have been emotionally abused and told to get married and leave. There is so much pressure to get married that it has put me off marriage altogether.

I also am very unhappy about having to lie to others about why I do not live with my mother and covering for my stepfather. I’m not sure how I can go into a marriage with lies about my past. I don’t want to lie and I want my mother and family to believe that the abuse happened.

I’ve come to a point where I feel very low and almost despair for my future. I want to move out of my grandmothers and live alone to work on my own happiness and peace. Then inshallah marriage and everything else will fall into place. At the same time I’m conflicted as to doing what’s right by me or what’s right by my family. It wouldn’t be culturally accepted for me to live alone unmarried. I

want to ask what the right thing to do is from an Islamic and not cultural perspective.

Q: It is becoming a common phenomenon that Muslim husbands leave their wives and kids alone at home to go for “boy’s night”. This is aside from time that they spend playing sport such as soccer and exercising. Is this permissible and healthy for one's family life? If so, how frequently should husbands be going out to spend time with their friends?

Q: Can a wife leave her husband since she cannot cope/bear her husband who has a second wife? Is it any sin on her?