Q: Sabar has much importance in Islam. I want to ask that if a woman is ugly and she is criticised by the people around her and compared by her sisters who are beautiful. Even there is no marriage proposal for her. But she always showes patience. Is it a type of Sabar and will she rewarded in akhirah for her Sabar.
Q: I've been living in the West for almost 12 years years and working hard. I have 3 Brothers and 1 sister. When I was working all by myself here, the rest of my family including my dad, my older brother and my younger brother did not really make any money until now and whatever they earned was only for themselves.
When I started working after studying 3 years here, I decided to build a house for my family; for my brother's and sister and my parents. Since my dad was not working and he was spending money that was from taking loans from others and my family was living in a rental house. I looked after all their needs and help to settle my older brother. I spent money to send them abroad as well, and I got my older brother married and spent a lot of money. I got my younger brother good education and also send him to a different country for work but he did not send any money to the family. I got my sister very good education in medical science, and I've never asked my parents how much they spend or why do they spend, I just sent money.
I'm also married now. About 3 years ago I asked my parents that I have never got money from my father who does have land and other property. I asked them no one has put any money in this house but we do have some loan from relatives which I had paid previously to some relatives and some were left, I asked my dad if I can pay off rest of the loan and I can have this house under my name, all my family can live in this house until whenever they want, I have no problem with that but I told him since I work so hard I did not make any other assets I could have established a business or build my property somewhere else with more future profit, but I chose to do something for my family first, so this is your house live here don't pay the rent and I will look after everyone's necessary needs until I can in sha Allah, but my father refused and he said this house should be divided just like all other property he has. My father has never paid for my education or any other expenses since I was 18 but my older brother who is 33 my father still helps him and he only makes money for himself or his wife. He does not help in any other matter of the house. I believe this is due to the bad relationship between my mom and dad and my dad thinks I'm on my mom's side that's why I'm not being treated fair. Upon me asking, he brought up hadith stating that everything that is mine as my fathers, and I don't understand how is this fair that my younger brother who's 25, my sister who's 24, my older brother who is 33, how come they don't bring any money home and only my money is theres. Please help me with a good solution.
Q: I am about to get married in few days. The girl who is going to be my wife (In shaa allah) doesn't follow Islamic dressing and hijab. I did talk to her about this in front of her mehram, she says she'll follow it once it comes from her own heart and it shouldn't be forced upon her.I know this will be a sensitive matter after our wedding as she might think that i am forcing hijab on her. So please guide me, after my marriage how do i make her dress in islamic way without forcing it upon her as forcing is forbidden in islam.
Q: I'm 15. I live in a house where there is no WiFi connection. I had requested my parents to get a WiFi connection. But they refused as they worried it might harm me. A few months ago, I asked for a neighbor's WiFi and they gave me their password. Will it be halal for me to use that? Please keep in mind that I only use the WiFi for educational and Islamic purposes.
Q: Wife and son wants to sell property without fathers/husband permission. He bought the property and put it on his wifes name 26 years ago because he works in Saudi Arabia. After some time he took a second wife and now his first wife son wants to sell the property.
Q: Sometimes I feel that I should not take my family to a hotel once a week. The cost of one meal at the hotel is equal to one week rashan charges of poor. Should I stop going to the hotel or not.
Q: What does Allah Ta'ala tell women to do if they are still not married or are not getting married by His will and yet still get orgasms or thoughts about masturbating?
Q: Somewhere I read that a husband should allow his wife to visit her parents home weekly, but what if her parents teach her things which affects me and my family (husband's family) like they teach her not to do work in the husband's home etc. To avoid such problems, I don't want her to go to her mother's home.
My mother in law and father in law usually fight with each other, sometimes they also hit each other and exchange very bad words and scold that's why I usually tell her that I will also accompany her whenever she goes to her mother's house and tell her that I won't leave you there alone. By this she sometimes feels bad and behaves differently. I told my mother and father in law as you people fight I'm afraid to leave my wife in your home, and suggested to them to read fazail e Amal daily for their improvement. Please advise me what to do.
Q: My father introduced me to a potential spouse. We talked on the phone and through texting got to know each other better. We feel we are very compatible. He mentioned to me in his talks that he had been married about 9 years ago. He was 23 and she was 56 years old. Now he is 32 and she is 65 years old. The marriage lasted for about 2 years. He told me the reasons for the marriage and why it ended. He showed me all his documents and assured me that I could ask all the questions and that they would be answered. He is of good character and he has wants to become a hafiz In Sha Allah. He has memorized the 30th juz and surahs such as Surah Mulk, Surah Yaseen, etc. He has told me only about him being divorced as in our culture a Muslim divorced person is viewed as such a taboo. He had sure that I be aware of his divorce as I would be the one becoming his spouse. Is it necessary for him to tell my parents before getting the married to me, knowing that they will reject him based on being a divorced person?
Q: I have a cousin who is one year older than me and the problem is he stopped praying and started smoking so am I supposed to tell my uncle about his son's actions (provided that he is a person who prays most of his prayers in the masjid) or should I keep it a secret and also if I should keep it as a secret what should I do if his father asks me about these things?