Advice

Q: What does Allah Ta'ala tell women to do if they are still not married or are not getting married by His will and yet still get orgasms or thoughts about masturbating? 

Q: Somewhere I read that a husband should allow his wife to visit her parents home weekly, but what if her parents teach her things which affects me and my family (husband's family) like they teach her not to do work in the husband's home etc. To avoid such problems, I don't want her to go to her mother's home.

My mother in law and father in law usually fight with each other, sometimes they also hit each other and exchange very bad words and scold that's why I usually tell her that I will also accompany her whenever she goes to her mother's house and tell her that I won't leave you there alone. By this she sometimes feels bad and behaves differently. I told my mother and father in law as you people fight I'm afraid to leave my wife in your home, and suggested to them to read fazail e Amal daily for their improvement. Please advise me what to do.

Q: My father introduced me to a potential spouse. We talked on the phone and through texting got to know each other better. We feel we are very compatible. He mentioned to me in his talks that he had been married about 9 years ago. He was 23 and she was 56 years old. Now he is 32 and she is 65 years old. The marriage lasted for about 2 years. He told me the reasons for the marriage and why it ended. He showed me all his documents and assured me that I could ask all the questions and that they would be answered. He is of good character and he has wants to become a hafiz In Sha Allah. He has memorized the 30th juz and surahs such as Surah Mulk, Surah Yaseen, etc. He has told me only about him being divorced as in our culture a Muslim divorced person is viewed as such a taboo. He had sure that I be aware of his divorce as I would be the one becoming his spouse. Is it necessary for him to tell my parents before getting the married to me, knowing that they will reject him based on being a divorced person?

Q: I have a cousin who is one year older than me and the problem is he stopped praying and started smoking so am I supposed to tell my uncle about his son's actions (provided that he is a person who prays most of his prayers in the masjid) or should I keep it a secret and also if I should keep it as a secret what should I do if his father asks me about these things?

Q: What's the best Islamic way to get rid of any issue you have? Whatever it maybe. Especially when you don't have peace?

Q: My wife does not agree to live in my home town so what should I do? I tried my level best to make her understand her but she refuses to listen. What should I do?

Q: I need naseehah if I should deactivate my Facebook account or not. This account has been helpful for my deen as through it I give many islamic posts. And I follow people who posts islamic posts , joined different islamic groups. Even I have joined groups where muftis give dars about islam, iman, aqaid, history of hadeeth, importance of adab etc and also they take quiz and give marks and they don't show their face.I am in a group where the 30th para and amal surah are targets to be memorized, so it is also benifitting me. But sometimes I become lazy and spend much time on facebook scrolling, reading Islamic posts. Nowadays I started to stalk people's (mahram) profiles which I don't want to do but I still do it and waste my time watching their photos and posts. So I have deactivated it temporarily. Should I deactivate it completely?

Q: I am a guy, and my wife to be has vitiligo. My parents do not know about this but she disclosed it to me, and I am perfectly ok with this and understand that it might spread, but to me her honesty, personality and piety matters, not the skin condition. She is conscious of her condition and sometimes insecure. That being said, I am not sure whether I am required to disclose this to my parents as well, because of the way society deems such conditions, or is this a personal matter that as long as we both are ok with, and she is honest to me, should be kept private? I have not asked her if she would be ok with me telling it to my parents. Is it kind of lying to my parents to keep such information hidden? In such case, should I ask my wife to be if she is ok with me disclosing it to my parents? Or is this a personla matter between us?

Q: My graduate admission requirements were to have DTE certified with experience. It was also said that the previous result and experience will be considered for selecting the students. I had good results but had no experience. So, I made a false experience certificate and got the admission. After that, I successfully completed my Bsc TE degree from university. Now, I want to pursue another degree where I need to submit my Bsc TE degree certificate as their requirements. So, is it permitted to get higher degree using previous certificates where I did make a false experience certificate to gain my Bsc degree?

Q: I am working as a govt. lecturer in a reputable univeristy and earning well. My husband belongs to a mixed family (father and two brothers are shia and mother, sisters are sunni). My husband follows sunni and thats why he married a sunni girl. Now one of his shia brothers came permanently from Dubai and he follows his shia acts specially in Muharram like majlis, matam, loud marsiay, etc. I have a two year old boy and I am worried about him. My husband does not pay any attention if I complain about these issues.

In addition, in my absence, my room is mostly used by my in laws who sit in my room and watch TV and sleep there also during my office hours. I complained about it to my husband but again he doesnt care about it. He provides financial support to his family (mother, two sisters, one elder unmarried brother, and one married shia brother, his wife and kids). My husband pays the rent and other utility bills for our home and joint family.

From my university, I have been aloted a house within the university premises and I asked my husband to shift here with me so that it can provide ease to me and most importantly our son can be brought-up away from shiasm. It has been more than six months that I am trying to convince him but nothing seems to work despite the fact that a handsome amount is being deducted from my salary. He does not want to move away from his family, especially his shia brother.

I am tired of convincing him. Kindly guide me in this regard.