Advice

Q: I need naseehah if I should deactivate my Facebook account or not. This account has been helpful for my deen as through it I give many islamic posts. And I follow people who posts islamic posts , joined different islamic groups. Even I have joined groups where muftis give dars about islam, iman, aqaid, history of hadeeth, importance of adab etc and also they take quiz and give marks and they don't show their face.I am in a group where the 30th para and amal surah are targets to be memorized, so it is also benifitting me. But sometimes I become lazy and spend much time on facebook scrolling, reading Islamic posts. Nowadays I started to stalk people's (mahram) profiles which I don't want to do but I still do it and waste my time watching their photos and posts. So I have deactivated it temporarily. Should I deactivate it completely?

Q: I am a guy, and my wife to be has vitiligo. My parents do not know about this but she disclosed it to me, and I am perfectly ok with this and understand that it might spread, but to me her honesty, personality and piety matters, not the skin condition. She is conscious of her condition and sometimes insecure. That being said, I am not sure whether I am required to disclose this to my parents as well, because of the way society deems such conditions, or is this a personal matter that as long as we both are ok with, and she is honest to me, should be kept private? I have not asked her if she would be ok with me telling it to my parents. Is it kind of lying to my parents to keep such information hidden? In such case, should I ask my wife to be if she is ok with me disclosing it to my parents? Or is this a personla matter between us?

Q: My graduate admission requirements were to have DTE certified with experience. It was also said that the previous result and experience will be considered for selecting the students. I had good results but had no experience. So, I made a false experience certificate and got the admission. After that, I successfully completed my Bsc TE degree from university. Now, I want to pursue another degree where I need to submit my Bsc TE degree certificate as their requirements. So, is it permitted to get higher degree using previous certificates where I did make a false experience certificate to gain my Bsc degree?

Q: I am working as a govt. lecturer in a reputable univeristy and earning well. My husband belongs to a mixed family (father and two brothers are shia and mother, sisters are sunni). My husband follows sunni and thats why he married a sunni girl. Now one of his shia brothers came permanently from Dubai and he follows his shia acts specially in Muharram like majlis, matam, loud marsiay, etc. I have a two year old boy and I am worried about him. My husband does not pay any attention if I complain about these issues.

In addition, in my absence, my room is mostly used by my in laws who sit in my room and watch TV and sleep there also during my office hours. I complained about it to my husband but again he doesnt care about it. He provides financial support to his family (mother, two sisters, one elder unmarried brother, and one married shia brother, his wife and kids). My husband pays the rent and other utility bills for our home and joint family.

From my university, I have been aloted a house within the university premises and I asked my husband to shift here with me so that it can provide ease to me and most importantly our son can be brought-up away from shiasm. It has been more than six months that I am trying to convince him but nothing seems to work despite the fact that a handsome amount is being deducted from my salary. He does not want to move away from his family, especially his shia brother.

I am tired of convincing him. Kindly guide me in this regard.

Q: I face peculiar problems with my ibadah. One of it whichever room I choose to pray in it people tend to like it and try to stay there. Such as I used to pray in my room without any disturbance but my mother liked my room and wanted to stay there. As it was my mother and though it was difficult to leave my room I left and prayed and stayed in my mother's room. But all her and my sister's things are in there and there is an attached bathroom which my mother and my sister use and a balcony. So they always come and go and if I am in my salah it irritates me a lot. Also I like to spend some time on my own without any disturbance which I cannot get. Now after experiencing so much disturbance there and realized that I can't manage with my temper, I started praying in the drawing room. Alhamdulillah I don't face those problems here and can pray without disturbance. Now my sister is saying that she wants to study here though she has her own room. She says that she feels comfortable to read here and her place is very hot. This makes me angry and everyone is noticing that. Now I am in a conflict in me that I should sacrifice and give other's more importance than me and as she thinks I am pious and my behavior can have great impact on her, on the other hand my salah and also my mood is going to be affected. This has left me with such pain. I always face struggles with regard to praying salah. It is very annoying that I always have to choose between akhlak and ibadah. Please give me some advice about this matter.

Q: I am a teenager and have an online account where I try helping others who suffer from depression, suicidal behavior, etc. It is an anonymous account so others do not know that I am Muslim. I always get asked for advice, but this time I need it myself for someone who suffers from intense depression. A girl asked me, how does she come out as bisexual to her homophobic parents? I haven't really answered her question, seeing as it's completely against Islam, but I don't want to mention my religion so quick because it'd put Islam and Muslims in a bad light. However, I can't go against Islam either. Please help. Maybe it's a chance for da'wah?

Q: I am married for 29 years with 5 children. All are grown up now. 15 years ago my husband stopped sleeping with me and stopped all activities of married life with me but we both live in one house in separate rooms. We are together because of the kids. Are we still husbsnd and wife or is our relationship affected? He hates me and don’t want to live with me. He said that our nikaah is no more because he did not come close to me for 15 years.

Q: I want to know about how my dealings should be towards my step daughters. My husband has 3 daughters from his deceased wife. They are all grown up adult girls. 2 of them are married and the last one is also grown up. It would have been easier and I have tried it but the last daughter has got an arrogant and negative attitude sometimes. What should I do?

Q: If a sinful muslim has too many problems and issues in life, are they tests or punishment from Allah?

Q: If a person believes in Allah, salah, fasting, zakah, hajj, etc. and all the compulsory things but does't practice them, is he still a Muslim and would he enter Jannah one day?