Advice

Q: I know that Islam gives most priority to the mother. If my father is a bad guy and continuously does very rough behaviour with my mother, then what can I do? If I also am rough to my father for the sake of my beloved mother to protect her, then will it be a sin? What can I do? My father tortures my mother both mentally and physicaly. I have attempted a lot to make my father good, but still he is a bad one. Please tell me, in this case if I hate my father and do rough behaviour when he scolds my mother for nothing, then will it be a sin?

Q: I have a question regarding some issues with my husband which I have raised with him but which he fails to address. For starters my husband D has had no intimate attraction towards me since marriage, he is capable of going through at least 2 weeks on end with no worry, he claims he is not like other men who only want women for one thing, yet I feel so unattractive as he always admires other women but barely complements me unless I'm upset. Secondly he never speaks to me about his day or confides in me he only speaks to his mother, he will lie in bed or sit with me and sms her and when we visit her he will start talking non stop to her. If I ask him why he does this he says I must find out one time when he is telling her I can hear or sometimes he says I was talking so he couldn't tell me, but what about all they sms each other. I have started being quiet as I am talkative to see if it makes a difference, but all he does is play on his phone and go to sleep not talk to me. I long to see him, I look forward to meeting him, knowing how his day has been and in the end it's an effort for him to interact with me. We have only been married 2 years and now have a child but this marriage is really unfulfilling and depressing. He always does what his mother wants, never asks me what I want, if I have plans or anything as such it's like I don't exist. Please don't get me wrong, I have no problem with him doing for his mother but what are my rights and options, am I meant to go on miserably like this? Please advise.

Q: I am recently finding myself getting further away from Allah. One year ago I was going through some difficulties and I must admit though at the time it was not a good time for me, it was also the best as I was the closest to Allah I have ever been. Once Allah accepted my Duas and things settled for me and my life has been at ease, I find myself going back to some old habits and even though I am reading my five Salaah and Nafl salaah, I am feeling very distant from Allah. I also find myself very discontent with what I have been blessed with. These were the things I prayed for and made sabr for, but now that I have it I want more. I want more materialistically. This is causing tension between my husband and I. I know it is wrong. I have so much to be thankful for yet I want more and more. I keep asking Allah to make my heart content with all these blessings. I feel bad because only when I really need something do I spend more time on the musallah. The distance from Allah got worse when I started working. I was too tired to read Quran and found myself being too tired to wake up for Tahajjud. I left my job due to other reasons. Alhamdulilah I dont have to work as it is not about money but more so that I dont feel like a sit at home housewife. I also find myself comparing myself to others lifestyles and feel that since this and that person are working then I need to be working too. When I am working I want to be at home, when I am home I want to work. My hear really is so restless in all these things. When I am home all I do is watch TV. I tried getting into the local taleem classes but no one is interested. What adds to it is that I am living overseas away from my family so I get bored and my husband does not want to have children now despite being married for 5 years as he says he wants to travel more. I really want to have kids. Please can you give me a dua to read for contentment of the heart and to help soften my husbands feelings and thoughts on having kids.

Q: I would like to know is the nikaah valid if the couples are not willing by heart? Especially the bride? If they just accept the nikaah because of family pressure. 

Q: Is it allowed in Islam for a girl to fall in love with another girl or a boy to fall in love with another boy?

Q: I am 19 years of age. I started University in 2014, which I didn't really enjoy much because I don't know why but I had a strong feeling to study Aalimah course. I know this is hidayat from Allah Ta'ala. I cried and cried because I wanted to study Alimah instead of university, however it was too late as it was October time. I didn't know what to do and I really wanted to do Aalimah course, so I started tajweed course Alhamdulillah. Due to not having much interest in my university studies, I failed my course. I prayed to Allah to accept me back to University but unfortunately I didn't receive the place. I prayed to Almighty to please gain me a place, and I was very very upset. Slowly I started to realise that everything happens for a reason, and now I have no objections to my creator, but sometimes I feel guilt to myself that I could have tried harder at University, but then I feel maybe my Allah wrote it that way. I can't stop my tears falling in sujood and sometimes wonder why all this happened to me, but then I pray to Allah and I have a beautiful feeling that one day Allah will reveal everything which I have gone through. Currently, I attend tajweed class. I am so happy because I have become a much more pious girl, and I never imagined that I would attend tajweed classes and become so devoted to Allah Ta'ala. I know I only do tajweed classes at the moment, but I'm happy this way. I do feel I could have started Aalimah this year but Insha Allah if Allah has written it I will. However I feel like I am studying Aalimah course by doing tajweed course. I always wanted to go uni, but I don't know what happened at uni - I just hated it and felt like it's not for me. Maybe Allah is testing me right now, and I do pray Insha Allah, Allah might give me a place at Uni again, and I have put everything in Allah's hand so I know he will take care of me and do what's best for me Insha Allah. Please can you suggest me what I could do? I am definitely going to carry on with my tajweed course. I am worried because I am still 19 and I haven't yet started my career. I never thought it will go this way.

Q: I saw two orbs of light blue/white lights in the sky last night and they were floating around. Sometimes I see a white orb of light inside my house which lasts for 2-3 seconds. Can you tell me what it is?

Q: I don't know how to do istikhaara, can someone else do it for me?

Q: I got my nikaah done six months ago. Rukhsati was due on my visa procedures as my husband is living in US. Everything was all good but after few months of our marriage my in laws seems to be wanting to end this relation there reason is they have bad feelings they feel I am not right for my husband and they want us to separate. My husband, me and my family don't want to end this marriage. My husband is confused to choose what's best. He wants this marriage to workout. He has been trying to convince his parents and they don't seem to change their minds although not giving a proper reason they just say its their bad feelings. Both the parents and me and my husband did isthkhara before nikkah and we were positive about it. I don't know why is this happening what is right thing to do here?