Advice

Q: A cousin of mines would like to know about the following circumstances. She stays with her in-laws. Cooks twice a week for the family and helps out when she can. Once a week she visits her parents for a few hours. This is according to her husband's wishes and also keeps her parents happy. However her in-law's especially her mother in-law does not like this. She complains to my cousin of shirking her responsibility but she will never say anything in front of my cousin's husband. Is this true? What exactly is her responsibility to her husband and her parents? Or to his? What will Allah Ta'ala hold her accountable for?

Q: I am moving into a new house. Is this better for everyone and a better choice for my husband and I?

Q:

1. Can a husband kiss his wife on lips, hand, cheek and forehead in front of his other wives?

Can all the 4 wives stay together in one house in 4 different rooms each?

Can the 4 wives offer nafl salaah behind her husband in jamaat? They're interested in praying long rakaats, that's why.

Should a person not consider adopting polygamy because it is frowned upon by his countrymen, relatives and parents?

Is a person allowed to marry more than one wife and upto 4 because he wants to have more children (wants children so that he can honor sahaba by giving them their names and make them great ulema of deoband maslak so that they can bring inqilaab in our society) and has more desire for intercourse while his wife is impure, and lastly so that he can change the life of his 4 wives with his piety and make them a strong adherent of sunnat e rasool (Sallallahu Alayhi Wasallam)?

What if parents and wife don't agree for polygamy even after stating sharee reasons? What should one do? Keep quite and listen to them or make them agree to this with hikmat?

Q: I have been too much worried about the marriage issue of my daughter for three years. Many proposals came for her but nobody return who came to my house to see my daughter. An aalim told me that listening to 'ruqyah' is a treatment of some kind of seher, jinnat and evil eye. So I started to listen, but after two days I saw in my dream that me and my husband were going toward my car which was parked somewhere, as I got closer to my car I felt somebody inside already. As I opened the door of car it was not like car from inside, it was like empty house and a girl was moving here and there madly like she was finding the way out but unable to find the way. When I got up it was 4:00 am and I was very scared. I want to know whether this dream has any connection with listening to ruqyah?

Q: My question is, is there any aayah in the Quran or any hadith which says that the one who has insulted Rasulullah (Sallallahu Alayhi Wasallam) or said something inappropriate is wajib-ul-qatl? Please explain.

Q: I would like to ask that I have one friend and he was Hindu. After that he accept Islam and due to heavy pressure of his mother and his family he moved again to Hindu religion. What shall you advise here. Also he really liked Islam and he wants to be a Muslim but his mother told him if you'll accept Islam, I'll do suicide. So he was forced to move again to Hindu religion.

Q: Is this true that when a mother asks the son to divorce his wife, he should divorce her? is the mum's status higher than the wife's status?

Q: I have to ask your good self something about my lifestyle blunders (sins). To begin with I wish to tell u something about myself. I was born in a poor home and illiterate society. My father a graduate but unemployed. My mother illiterate. My neighbourhood also illiterate with few exceptions. In my childhood I was sexually abused by two boys elder to me. They took me to a secluded place and tried to harm me but I ran away. Later I got mingled into the society after 6th standard, probably owing to my fathers frustration because he could not get a government job and got over aged for any government job. The elder boys in the neighbourhood told us their stories what they did. They told us how they assaulted younger boys sexually (rape as per law). Similarly my friends at school introduced me to masturbation and other things. With time all these things poisoned my young mind and I landed in all these crimes. I assaulted 5 small boy sexually. Although I didn't inflict any physical pain to them but I used to rub my organ against theirs till I got done. This continued for many years till 22. I went ahead in studies and now I am a doctor. In my final year I failed. At that time I got isolated from my batch mates. I was in a great distress. One evening when I was preparing again for that exam, I sat down for rest. All of a sudden all these past memories surfaced into my mind. I remembered my crimes and sins. Those children who are now in their late 20's. I felt sorry. Three years have now passed since then. I m feeling worried about my sins. What will be my condition on qiyamah and in the grave. These things haunt me. Please tell me what to do, for Allah's sake. Should I go to Saudi Arabia for punishment or will I beg these boys for forgiveness. (I told one to forgive me) Also please tell me its punishment Islamically. Even then will Allah forgive me. I am psychologically a lot disturbed. I hate mused and curse myself. I think I will not be able to marry. Even if I I got married, I could not be able to take care of my family because day by day I am getting more involved pscholgically. Please tell me , for Allahs sake.

Q: I usually feel too exhausted, very lazy and weakness in my bones and it's on every single bone with a headache and it only gets worst when I want to pray. I feel drifted from who I am, I don't recognise myself anymore and I find it very hard to do things for myself or anyone and my mum is always mad at me for that. I keep failing which was never me and I keep quitting on education and everything. Can you please help?

Q: I have been married for 4 years. I have been separated from my husband staying with my parent for 2 years. He does not nafaqah me. We spent more time apart than together. I have no trust in him, I don't believe him. Our gap has grown so much bigger between us. Whenever we speak about things trying to make changes, but it never happens. We are still fighting. I'm unhappy miserable and lonely.