Advice

Q: Before 8 years back I was loving a girl and she also but we never talked just we both know that we are in love and I am getting dreams of her daily and when I wake up I forget the dreams. I think that she is in some problem.

Q: I have something that has been troubling me. My husband told me he had a male call him in a private number accusing him of having an affair with this man's wife then he goes on to tell that, that man then tells that I am having something to do with him which highly got me angry which I know is a lie. I phoned a service provider enquiring if I can trace a private call so I can prove my innocence I asked my husband to take me to police station to open up a case against that private call but he refused to take me he said he will sort it out but he doesn't want to take me. Then my husband tells me that the station police told him that they can only see the area which person is calling from but not the actual person which I believe is a lie because all sim cards are registered. Customer care told they can trace a private call but my husband is adamant that it can't be done and private call is only coming when he is not at home. So I don't know if my husband is trying to defame me or trying to accuse me of something and it is really disturbing me a lot and causing discomfort. Please advise me I don't want to leave any stones unturned I want to get to the bottom of the truth.

Q: There is a family who want to come to my parents to ask for a marriage proposal for their son and me. I appreciate their son and I agree for their proposal. But my parents don't let them come. They don't want to even hear about their proposal because of their cast. We are Pakistani. We are from the upper cast and their are from the lower one. My parents don't know the guy nor his family but they are not even ready to meet them. They told me that they prefer keeping me unmarried than marry me to this guy because of cast, because of the dunya. They told me that what would they say to the people if I marry that guy. Is their reaction right in Islam? If the guy agrees for the marriage and I agree too, if both of us are happy with this marriage, is it right for my parents to stop the marriage, to not let it happen? I am 26 and the guy's family want to come since 2014, it has been 2 years that my parents refuse and delay my marriage whereas the guy is religious. Please can you help me and reply to my questions about it.

Q: My naseeb is very bad, everything goes wrong with me to whom I belive they give me dhoka, even Allah. What I commence, I never get done. What to do. Please help.

Q: My question is that I came to KSA from Karachi two months back to my parents and I don't like it here at all. I am 23 years old and I lived all my life in Pakistan. I am used to the lifestyle of Pakistan. I tried to compromise and live here but I can't anymore! I pray regularly Alhumdulelah and believe that only Allah Ta'ala can help me. But my parents are not thinking about me. I didn't eat for 5 days but they're not bothered. They're giving excuses that we spent so much money to bring you here and now you want to go. I collected my money for exit visa and ticket also so that I don't burden them. I have my home back in Karachi and my elder brother lives there too. It is no problem if I go live there but my parents are making it a problem. I hav faith that if Allah wills, He can help me. No one else can stop me then! But sometimes I become weak and feel like committing suicide so that they can save their money properly! I am afraid I might do something wrong with myself.

Q: What to do if a wife asks her husband to make a promise to not even touch her till death (maut tak, married in 2015)? Must he make sabar?

Q: My wife does not like me. Can I live with imagining a girl (jannat wife)?

Q: Myself my husband we both are very nice people. We are always on the helping side. We are not jealous, very simple and clear hearted people. But recently we got very big loss in our properties and we also give out accurate zakat as mentioned in the Qur'an. So what is the reason we face so many problems?

Q: I had indented to marry a lady then during our conversation after couple of months before nikaah I came to know that she is greedy and I fear that she would do the way she likes to do and will not listen to me because I believe she is a professional excusor. I strongly feel that this marriage will not work. I refused once then through a third person we sorted out and tried to re-continue. Now again I am feeling the same situation. Should I go with this marriage or not? I am confused. My family says in this country you don't know people are very different. That lady was married before and got divorce from her husband in a couple of weeks. Please guide me. She said she did istkhara and it was ok. I did but got nothing, no feeling etc. still same.

Q: I am asking this question for my aunt. My husband says that my father passed away when he was young because of my ghuna's. The reason being that he doesn't get along with me. My husband and his family are continuously abrupt and still expect me to do everything for them. My husband has issued me with two talaaqs and threatens me with a third for every difference between us in front of my children and their spouses and my grand children. The reason he does not go through with it is because we are married in community of property and he is afraid to lose the properties that have my name on them. He asks for my consent to sell the properties that have both our names on the deeds. I also have contributed to these properties financially and completed the deals on these houses. He then takes all the cash quietly from the sales and purchases homes for our unmarried daughters without my knowledge. We are living separately at the moment, he with our daughters and I am alone. We also live in different cities. The main reason for this query is that it really hurts me that he says I lost my father due to my ghuna’s. I’ve looked after his mother the best I could but she never appreciated it and told my husband I never did anything for her. Please advise me if his statements are true.