Q: I work in Saudi Arabia as an expat and have many friends and relatives here but I do not have any contact with them for a long time because my job has made me a very low level person. I don't want them to know about my job so I cut off contact with them. Is this a sinful act in Islam?
Q: Despite being very careful and conscious with fellow humans that I don’t hurt anybody in anyway but still I feel guilt and look for instances in my past where I might have hurt somebody with my hand or tongue but there are always shortcomings intentional or unintentional.
My question is what if we did wrong to somebody in the past and don’t recall who it was or if it was minor or major. For example, abusing out of anger if someone hit your car what will be the punishment or how to repent to Allah Ta'ala as I read that Allah Ta'ala will not forgive such and such violations of huqooqul ibaad. These thoughts are disturbing me and it's becoming hard for me to be a productive Muslim because of these distressing thoughts that I will burn in hell whatever good I do.
Even though there were many examples where people did wrong to me but I didn't take any action rather let them go. I must have done bad deeds too but not too sure when and where. I feel distressed and hopeless trying to be so perfect where people don’t even bother much and they are still happier.
Moreover I start to fear death at times and what will happen after that etc and my mood is depressed a lot of times please suggest me what should I recite and hope for the mercy of Allah.
Q: My parents are aged. MashaAllah both are alive. My father is in 80’s and my mother is in 70’s. I’m the youngest child and my age is 25 years. I’m a resident of Pakistan and I've got admission in Ireland.
If I talk about the opportunity, it has a bright scope in future to move to Ireland. If I talk about my parents relationship then I’m in a doubt whether I’m missing the opportunity to live with my parents in their old age.
I seek your guidance whether to go to Ireland or continue to live with my parents in the light of the Holy Quran and the teachings of Nabi Muhammad (sallalaho alaihi wasallam) so that my heart could feel relief and I could further take a decision.
Q: Who makes decisions for a child after the age of 13/14? If it is the child who makes the decision, then what will happen to the parents if they forcefully make the child do otherwise and likewise if the parents make the decisions and the child does not obey?
Q: My father doesn't take his responsibility as a father and he doesn't respond when spoken to and I stopped greeting him, am I sinful?
Q: A person want to put up a cell phone tower on a Darul Uloom property or on his own property, do you have to get permission from the neighbors from a Shari point of view? If the neighbors object what is the ruling?
Q: I am studying at a university which has maintained some green areas with fertile soil in the campus for students. Other unmaintained places in the campus have unfertile, dry soil. I have a potted plant in my room and it needed more fertile soil, but I did not know any gardening shop to buy fertile soil from. So I got fertile soil from the maintained green areas and added that to my potted plant.
Is taking this soil from the campus' maintained green areas permissible or is it stealing?
Also, will it be permissible to take the dry soil from unmaintained areas of the campus?
Q: I have a question which relates to taking care of my old and aged mother.
My father passed away long ago. I am the only son with three sisters. All of us are married and living separately with our families in different places. Mother is living alone in our homeland in a separate house. I am living with my family and earning my livelihood in a different country. I am the only earner for my family and for my mother. One of my sisters is also living with her family in a different country. My two sisters with their husbands and children live in the same city where my mother lives.
My mother is alone and she is managing her mandatory works like going to toilet alone, taking bath, changing clothes etc. She expresses the desire that her children should come and help her in her hour of need. Also she does not want to shift in any daughter’s house who are living in the same city nearby. I have following question to ask,
1. Who is responsible to take care of mother, myself only or my sisters or all of us.
2. If in case I am responsible, then can I make a satisfactory arrangement for my mother by keeping a maid to help her in her household works like cooking food and taking care for her other works.
3. If in the case where I am responsible, is it obligatory for me as per sharia to leave my livelihood and return back and stay with my mother and take care for her.
Q: My question is pertaining to relationship of my children with their grand father (husbands father).
My in laws are divorced now for a very lone time. With the result that there is no communication between my husband and father in law at all. Since being married and having kids now I would like my children to have a relationship with their grand father (Dada) as my father (Nana) is late. I have posed the question to my husband regarding this and he said that his father is aware of his grandchildren but has not made contact. But my feeling is that his father has not made any contact because father and son are not on talking terms and as result he has kept his distance.
Should I leave it and not pursue this any further or shall I try and make contact with my father in law even though he does not know me. What is the correct action to be done here. Please advise.
Q: I was married recently. My wife wants us to live in a different place than my parents and I know it's in Islam that she has the right for a separate place. I'm more than happy to live with her in a different place. But, Islam also says that the son has the responsibility to care for his parents. I want to know how am I supposed to live with my wife in a different place and simultaneously take care of my parents.