Rights of servants

Keeping contact with one's gay son

Q: There is a mother and father who have a gay son that is living with his gay lover and intends on getting married to him. The son is not in the parents care, is financially independent and lives in another city. The parents, brother and sister have spoken to him regarding his actions on countless occasions not to do the sin but he never listens. He intends to continue his relationship and lifestyle.

1 What do the family members do since he is being obstinate?

2 Do the family members have to cut ties with him?

3 Can any cordial relationship occur between the parties?

4 Can the mother conceal the sons true actions from the father?

Responsibility of taking care of old parents

Q: There seems to be a growing trend amongst our Muslims to pass on the responsibility of taking care of elderly parents to the daughters. Sons are evading the responsibilities although they inherit 2 shares and daughter in laws are afraid to accept that's it's the husband's responsibility and use hundreds of justifications on why the daughter should look after the elderly parents. Although knowledgeable about Allah's wisdom in choosing the sons, but are in total denial. In some instances, daughters are battling financially but are bullied into taking over the responsibility of the sons. Please advise and also have this as an ongoing discussion because people are conveniently stuck in their thinking about this issues because it doesn't serve their needs or are in huge denial although clearly spelt out in Allah's commands.

Financing one's father's second wife

Q: My father has married our old housemaid secretly two years ago. We have recently found this out.

I have been financing his house and my own house for the last eight years. I have two disabled sisters and my mother in his household while I have my own daughter and husband in my household. I have been bearing the expenses of both the houses because my father told me he is saving money for our future. He has now spent all his savings on his second wife while I continue to finance his house as I have been doing. He does not pay a single dirham to my mother or myself for anything and his demands increase every day. He is also very verbally abusive.

My three day old son died and he made my pregnancy very stressful by his constant fighting and he fought very badly with me a week after my son died. He tells me that taking care of my sisters and himself is my Islamic duty and that he has finished fulfilling his Islamic duty before he got a second wife.

He is now only financing his second wife while he continues to stay with us. He is also selling the property that I thought I would inherit one day and he insists I have no right on that property as well. He is building a house for his second wife in her name.

Please advise me, from an Islamic point of view, what is my duty in this situation? Is what I am doing my Islamic duty? Will I punished in the afterlife for withdrawing financial support for my disabled sisters and mother? How am I supposed to deal with my father's behaviour in the view of Islam?