talaaq

Reuniting after divorce

Q: I converted to Islam and have been married for 15 years with my husband and two sons. Arrival to the problem. My husband has never been a very practising Muslim all these years and I must say I made life very simple. Saw repeated betrayals by me always forgiven for the sake of the family. Only in the past three years the situation has worsened with requests from him of sexual practises prohibited in Islam even in all morality. Whereupon I set him to see if he could without me to find the right path. So it was in fact I ask him to give me irrevocable repudiation instantly (while loving him yet). I didn't know anything about divorce in Islam but I though that this was the only way that he will change. He did not wish to give but at last he gave. I forced him to give me under threat. I unfortunately wasn't aware of the consequences of this thing because nobody told about divorce in Islam. Now only a few months after I realized that I really love him. It is my intent to get back. I would now like to come back together also for our children but as I said, unfortunately I do not know if we can. There are differing opinions. Some say that just a marriage with another person and divorce right away but others say I should even consummate this marriage (that is for me much difficult because I love and have always loved my husband and I would never think to betray him). Because having my good intent should I lose so cruelly. Please help me?

Iylaa'

Q: Islam mein iylaa' kisay kehty hain? Kya iylaa' kay liya Allah ki qasam ka kehna zarori ha? Please mujy batayein.

Custody of the children and providing maintenance

Q: In the case of divorce, which parent has the right of custody of the children and up to what age? If a certain parent has the right of custody then can that parent prevent the other parent from visiting the children? Similarly, I would like to know which parent has to provide maintenance for the children. If the children have wealth, can their wealth be used for the maintenance? What exactly does maintenance entail and will the expenses of the children's education also fall under maintenance?  

Talaaq after khalwat

Q: My daughter accepted a proposal and the boys parents asked for the Nikah to be done. My Daughter accepted as it was the correct thing to do. She never moved to her marital home . As she never been with any men or involved in any relationships, the two brief visits with her husband was a bit uncomfortable. She felt awkward if he held her hand etc. This was the first time ever alone with a male in a relationship. She was very anxious and nervous. The Husband gave her talaaq as he felt she was meant to be in love with him when she agreed to the Nikaah. The Mother has sent back all the gifts we gave him and ashurah gifts we sent them. They also feel that there is no iddat. The talaaq was sent by sms. The Boys parents didn't want to wait or try. My daughter started her iddat. The marriage was not consummated.

Ambiguous words of talaaq

Q: What is the definition of talaaq? Can a person judge a talaaq on me if I did not have the intention of giving a talaaq? In other words. Can another person decide what was in my thoughts and in my heart when I said something and judge it to be a talaaq, even though I had no such intention?

"Tu azaad ho" kehne se talaaq

Q: Mera masla yeh ha ke main ne ghar walon ki marzi k bina ja k shadi ki jiss mein sirf ladke ka bhai or walida mojood thi or nikaah k liye 2 molvie sahab they or aik 2 camera men or ladkiyan jo k ladke k bhai k dpst thi. Lekin meri taraf say gawah sirf ladke k aik dost ka naam likha tha jab k woh dost wahan nikaah k waqto jood nahi tha. Ladke k ghar walon ne lalach mein yeh nikah karwa liya tha ta k ladka baher chala jaye lekin halat bohut khaarab hote gaye or ladke ne aik bar "main tujhe talaq deta hoon" or dposri bar message per likh kar kaha k tu meri taraf say ab azaad ha khuda ki qasm" keh kar 2 bar talaq day di ha. Mujhe maloom karna ha kya yeh nikaah valid tha tha Astaghfirullah sirf zinna mein shumaar hua? Or kya us hisaab say yeh talaq bhi ho gayi? Kya talaq aik bar dena kafi ha ya teen bar dena zaroori ha? Ab mere waldain chahte han k mera nikah dobara sab k samne proper tareeqe say kar den lekon ab ladkay k ghar wale us ko kehte han k sirf is he shart per k agar woh foran tumhain baher bula len tab lekin ladka ab razi nahi hota q k us k nazdeek yeh nikaah hua he nahi q k gawah mojood he nahi they mere liye koi. Main bohut pareshan hoon ajeeb depression sa ho gaya ha. Mera dill kisi or mard say shadi k liye bhi nahi manta or khandan bhar mein kisi ko nahi pata. Main janti hoon mujh say bohut bari ghalti hui ha lekin ab samejh mein he nahi aa raha k mujhe kya karna chahiye or is sab situation k kya hall ha? Pehle to mujhe woh ladka wese pasand tha lekin main ne sache dill say nikah kiya bina kisi lalach k or abhi tak mere dill mein us k liye shohar jesa he rutba ha halan k us ne her tarah say contact he khatam kar diya ha mujh say. Please Allah app ko jazaye khair day mujhe guide kijiye k yeh sab jo hua or ab mujhe kya karna chahiye? Yeh sab main apne ghar walon say share nahi kar sakti. Or Mufti sahban say poochne per bhi dar lagta ha q k woh thore sakht hote han aise maslon per ghussa kar jate han or raha saha hosla bhi khatam ho jata ha. App say bohut himmat kar k pooch rahi hoon. Baraye meherbani meri situation ko samjh k bataiye.

Rukhsati se pehle talaaq

Q: Janab mangeetar ne apni sosral walo se jagrra howa bad ma mangeetar k behan ni call k ow samjani ki koshish kerte te to mangeetar ni is alfazo ma apne behan no kaha ki ma onko talaq,talaq,talaq deta ho )) behan ki ilawa kese ko pata nahii ki mangeetar ne istrah alafaz bol dye hain ..ab dono family ki baij solah Hagye hain to rehnomaye kare talaq hogaye gain ya nahi? agar hain to dobara kistrah nikah kiya jain khamoshi se ki batt sharghee towar pe teek ho our kese ko pata b na chalee ke keya howa ta.