Aqaaid

Accepting Islam and concealing it from one's family

Q: I converted to Islam. However, I have kept it from my family knowing that they will not accept my newfound religion and because of all the negativity about Islam in the news. Chinese people, including my family, are very close minded about preserving their culture and religion. But It's taken a really huge toll on me mentally. I'm not too fond of hiding my "new self" from my family and I think it really strains my relationship with them. I always have to lock my door when I pray and I always have to sneak out with the hijab or put it on when I get outside, which is a very difficult task and I think them not knowing somewhat hinders my full potential as a Muslim. For example during Ramadan, my mom would reprimand me for not eating and make me eat and etc. What should I do? Should come clean knowing that they will disown me or should I continue to keep it to myself?

Accepting Islam secretly

Q: Our helper is interested in Islam, but when she tried to tell her parents about Islam, they tell her that she must leave if she accepts Islam and threatened to do something to her child (not sure what) as they believe here in the cities, they are too many religions and thinks Islam to be something like satanism. She wanted to know whether she can accept Islam but keep it a secret from her parents. I told her she can, but then started wondering whether it is right. She has already said the Kalima couple times repeating after my little brother when he came back from Madrassah but not formally. I think she believes, and she's eager to learn more about Salaah and that. Please advise as to what should I do, and is it okay for her to keep it a secret.

Inviting family for supper on Aashura

Q: On a yearly basis, my husband and I invite my mom, brother and his family as well my children and our grand-children - normally we are 15. This year my husband and I extended the invite to his brothers and sisters. My question is, is it bida'h to host a dinner for family as well as give gifts to each one of them. Is there a problem that we wrapped up their gifts? Due to the number of people we had, we put up a marquee this time which we normally don't do. The reason for all these questions we were told that a certain member of our family commented it was bida'h and another said that we should consult with our local Ulama if we plan to host such a Aashura dinner and this saddened us. If this is not the way that we should go then it is our duty to seek forgiveness from Allah for our actions. We await a response from you.