family ties

Maintaining ties with one's mother

7 years ago By admin

Q: I have not seen my mother for 15 years. Now I am 20 years old. There was a problem between my dad and mom as my mother a had a habit of robbing and it was very embarrassing. There was huge fight between dad and mom and So she left the house and went away. All these years I was living without her. But I recently got to know that she is Saudi Arabia. What should I do? Should I tell my dad or not because he hates her and the second thing is should I contact her? I am confused my heart says I should but I don't know what to say.

Declaring war with Allah Ta'ala by dealing in interest

7 years ago By user2

Q: My older brother is the head of the household and he makes most of the financial decisions for me. A while ago he made me apply for a loan that I would have to pay interest on. Now that I know that paying interest is haram, I've tried hard to convince him to cancel the loan and even told him about valid Islamic sources to show that it is a grave sin. He simply said that we're in a tough situation and I need the loan to go to college so exceptions have to be made. And he went on to add, "These online muftis don't know the difficulties our family goes through to put bread on the table." I'm in a situation where I have no control in returning the loan before interest starts accruing on it since he has control over the bank account. I fear that my family will lash out at me and maybe even cut family ties from me for putting them through difficulties for my own beliefs since they don't follow Islam as closely as I do. I'm very scared of the consequences I will have to face for letting him force me into taking a loan in which I will pay riba on. Please let me know of any way to deal with this sin that I see no way of avoiding. I would even pay 10 times the amount in sadaqa as I took in the loan (later on in my life) if I have to.

Maintaining family ties with people who don't follow a mazhab

7 years ago By user2

Q: I have a few relatives. They are born and brought up in a Muslim family like us. However at present, they have converted into La Madhabi theology like Dr. Zakir Naik, Ahmad Deedat, etc. by refusing madhab theory.

My question is how do I maintain my relationship with them? Are we allowed/permitted to share non-veg food with them? Can we consume chicken or other non-veg whenever they invite us over for a meal? Are we allowed to perform Salat and Janaza together with them? While reading Namaz under our Imaam they pronounce aameen loudly after the Alhamdu....? Will it affect our namaz in anyway?

Dream

7 years ago By admin

Q: We have three kittens. I dreamt that I went to the kitchen to see them. Whilst looking, a new kitten appeared. I thought that maybe this is their friend that they lost in childhood. Another unknown kitten then appeared. Soon, about 20 cats and kittens starting coming up in the kitchen. They were all gathered and sitting happily together. They were all different colors and I concluded that they could not be the offspring of our kittens. Some were brown, blue, etc. in color. I was confused about the source of all these cats. My mother then walked in from another section of the kitchen. She looked at me confused and quizzically about all these kittens. I looked at her in the same manner. We were bewildered. Kindly interpret this dream. I had this dream whilst on safar.

Sila rahmi

7 years ago By admin

Q: Mujhe aapse aik masly kay bary mein puchna hy jo k ikhlaq kay zumry mn ata hy. Hum apny relatives kay sath bachpan say he bohat achch thy, hmary dil saaf thy. Hm jab bhi apni cousins wgera say milty to dil say milty ty. Lekin hmari cousins ka jb dil kerta hmen bula letin ar jab dil kia ignore ker dia. Jab ham school mein thy to hmari cuosins hmsy theek trha say nhe milti thin, uski bjae wo hmari doston say bht khush ho k milti thin. Hmny yh bhi ignore ker dia. Hm bry hoty gye 12th class tk to hmny apny dil ko saaf e rakha. Hmen samajh nhe ati ti tb unki. lekin ahista ahista unki samajh ani shuru ho gae, jb unhn koi nhe milta ta to wo hmary sath time pass ker leti thin ar jsy e koi unko apna qareebi milta to hmari trf dekhti bhi nhe thin. Unhn asa kr kr kay hmary dil bhi maily ker dye ar ab hmara bhi unsay milny ko dil nhe krta. Jb hmry dil saaf thy tb to wo thora bht phr bhi bat ker leti thin. Lekin jab say hmny unk peechy phirna chor dia hay tab say to wo salaam lena bhi psand nhe kerti. Mera yh sab btany ka maqsad yh hay kay, insan bazz okat acha hota hay lekin dusry log usko galat bna dety hn. Kia hmen apni izzate nafs ke hifazat krny ke ijazat hay Islam mein. Agr koi bar bar hmari izate nafs ko majrooh kry to kia krna chahye. Ayse situation mein kia kerna chahye jb koi apko relative e na samjhy ar neecha smjhy, ar tissue paper ke trha treat kry?

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