Q: I have often heard: "Perhaps you love a thing and it is bad for you and hate a thing and it is good for you..."
I am very confused about this. Say, if we used the example of a person that we love and ask Allah for but do not get to be with them because they are bad for us. If we end up with who is good for us will we still not love them as much as we loved the initial person? Will we have to convince ourselves to like them by telling ourselves that this is good for us for reasons we don't know? Being human, won't there be the initial disappointment of not getting who we wanted? They say in time you will come to see in what ways they were better for you but won't you be miserable up until that time by being with someone you didn't love as much?
I've also heard that you get from Allah what you expect from him but then at the same time they say that you should not set your heart on anything or you could be disappointed and that you should acknowledge a possibility of not getting it .
They say that dua can change taqdeer but only if what you make dua for is good for you, but what if your dua is that it should be good for you?
A: Your duty is to look for righteous company and benefit from their presence and good.
It is permissible to make du`aa in this manner.
And Allah Ta'ala (الله تعالى) knows best.
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