Q: A relative was investigating a girl for my marriage. He learnt from a very reliable source that the girl was sexually molested when she was a child. When my parents learnt that the girl was molested as a child, they said that we should not investigate her anymore for my marriage.
Is this correct behavior? Is this a valid reason for not considering someone for marriage? In my opinion, it appears unfair to her as she was a na-baligh at the time. I do understand well that child sexual abuse victims often carry traumatic memories and emotional symptoms well into adulthood. But will this mean that one should not consider such a person for marriage entirely before looking at anything else, like character, morality, hayaa, etc.?
A: If you feel comfortable with her and you will not be affected by her past and you will not give her reminders of her past thereby making her feel uncomfortable then there is no problem.
And Allah Ta'ala (الله تعالى) knows best.
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