Extent of being financially stable when getting married

Q: We are always advised by Ulama to get married early but on the other hand we are also supposed to provide for our spouse and most of the boys get financially stable or land a job only up until their mid to late 20s (atleast where I am from).

I have also heard that it is the duty of parents to get their child married on becoming baaligh.

My question is, how can we acheive balance in it when it is not possible to get financially independent early but it is also necessary for a husband to provide.

For example, when I was 17, an Aalim advised me to get married at a majlis, but how can a 17 year old fulfill the right to provide?

What is the extent of financial capability and what is the role of parents here (in light of that they are told to get children married)?

A: These unfortunate situations arise due to it being partially the children's fault and partially the parents' fault. There is a need for greater simplicity. This will then make it easy to maintain the home and the wife and similarly to maintain the married young boy. However, when parents want a high standard of living then they expect that the son should also be quite strong before starting off life, not realising that the child is mature and has feelings and emotions. And if those emotions are not guided correctly he will slip into wrong. Had they come to a basic simple life the son would also be comfortable living under that circumstance with his wife, and insha Allah there will not be any wrongdoing.

And Allah Ta'ala (الله تعالى) knows best.


Answered by:

Mufti Ebrahim Salejee (Isipingo Beach)