Nafaqah (Financial support)

Being patient in one's condition

Q: My wife and I are both working and we are together trying to make our lives better. I am from Pakistan and I am not earning too much like I can take care of them strictly speaking but I can't save any money. We have 1 kid and another on the way In Sha Allah.

Together we are trying to save money but my wife insists that it's my responsibility to take care of the house which I admit. However I'm afraid that I alone cannot keep up our way of life or have any savings and even get our own house (I am living with my parents in joint family). She keeps saying this and it hurts me a lot since I only asked for a portion of her salary which I use to spend on her and the kids and still it makes me feel like a villain and being reminded again and again.

I need your guidance about this problem.

The importance of treating the wife well in Deen

Q: As far as I understand, in a marriage, the wife is only entitled to nafaqah. This nafaqah comprises of two sets of clothes a year and some flour daily for her to make bread for herself. The wife is not entitled to anything else.

However, the wife has to serve the husband and do everything for him. He only gives her two sets of clothing yet she has to wash all the clothes in his wardrobe. He only gives her flour, yet she must prepare for him whatever he wants, and while he is eating good food, she must eat plain bread. She has to clean, dust, mop, do the laundry and take care of the children, but she is not entitled to anything. 

Does this not show that Islam has given much more to men, as they can enjoy everything while the wife must survive on the bare minimum?

Spouses having a separate entrance to their section of the house

Q: I live with my in laws, and though I have a separate portion, bedroom, kitchen, and bathroom, my husband does not allow me to use the separate entrance or exit of that house portion. He forced me to use the door outside that goes through his parent's portion of the house.

Does Islam allow me to have a separate entry and exit from the house portion?

Husband not obliged to pay for his wife's medical bills

Q: I read that it is not an obligation for a husband to pay for his wife's medical bills, and that she must pay for them herself. How can a woman who has not gone to college or worked outside the home due to following Islamic rules get a job that will pay for her medical bill while also being sick? I do not understand how a Muslim women are supposed to cover their own medical expenses when Islam has discouraged them from working their whole lives? 

Extent of being financially stable when getting married

Q: We are always advised by Ulama to get married early but on the other hand we are also supposed to provide for our spouse and most of the boys get financially stable or land a job only up until their mid to late 20s (atleast where I am from).

I have also heard that it is the duty of parents to get their child married on becoming baaligh.

My question is, how can we acheive balance in it when it is not possible to get financially independent early but it is also necessary for a husband to provide.

For example, when I was 17, an Aalim advised me to get married at a majlis, but how can a 17 year old fulfill the right to provide?

What is the extent of financial capability and what is the role of parents here (in light of that they are told to get children married)?