Things that are allowed when going to see a girl with the intention of nikaah

Q: I am going to see a girl for a proposal/first meeting. Please can you advise what questions I can ask during this meeting.

A: When going to see a girl with the intention of nikaah, then the only thing that the shari'ah has allowed is that the boy may look at the girl's face or palms and the girl looks at the boy. Apart from this, speaking among themselves is discouraged and does not conform to the sunnah. If the boy wishes to find out about the girl, then he may ask his mother or sister or some of his mahrams to find out from the womenfolk of the girl's family on his behalf. Similarly is the case with the girl.

And Allah Ta'ala (الله تعالى) knows best.

 

Answered by:

Mufti Zakaria Makada

Checked & Approved:

Mufti Ebrahim Salejee (Isipingo Beach)