Q: I had multiple opportunities to go to other countries but due to my wife's fertility issues I had to sacrifice my career and stay in India itself.
For the first child, I had to sacrifice many onsite travels as I had to be in India as ease of treatment is good here. When she got pregnant, I got US 2 Years and then Canada 2 years, Germany but I had to decline as we planned for a 2nd baby and then again she needed treatment. We struggled a lot to find good doctors during treatment so I always believed going out would again delay the process and it will take time.
Kindly help me how could I convince myself, sometimes I get thoughts like why it is happening to me.
Also I have my mother who is staying with me, even though I have an elder brother but she prefers so stay with me. Kindly guide how do I proceed in this case too.
A: A believer should be more concerned about pleasing Allah Ta‘ala and fulfilling His command than acquiring worldly wealth and progress.
Remaining with your wife and fulfilling your marital responsibilities towards her and comforting her at the time of her pain and hardship is an obligation which Allah Ta'ala has placed upon you. Through fulfilling this, you will gain His pleasure and blessings in your worldly life and you will gain Jannah in the hereafter. On the contrary, if you shirk in fulfilling this obligation, then you will be sinful and worthy of punishment in the hereafter.
Hence, when this is more pleasing to Allah Ta'ala than you excelling in worldly spheres or progressing materially, then what is the need for you to be distressed and grieved over what you could have acquired had you travelled abroad.
Always feel that what you have is acquired only through the grace of Allah Ta‘ala and His mercy. How do you know what would have transpired had you left your wife and went abroad. Perhaps you could have lost your family or your wealth or your deen could have been in danger.
And Allah Ta'ala (الله تعالى) knows best.
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