Various masaail of Nikaah

Maintaining family unity

Q: The sons in a particular family insist that for the sake of keeping family unity, their wives should invite the entire family (their mother, siblings and siblings spouses and kids) for a meal. And that their mother and sister are entitled to stay a few days every once in a while at the son’s house. If the daughter in laws complain about the amount of work it takes to host a meal for so many people, the sons become very angry and fight with their wives until they agree to host.

There has already been so many divorces in this family. Who is right and who is wrong? The sons, their mother and sister for constantly imposing on the daughter in laws or the daughter in laws for not wanting to entertain guests?

Mother preventing child from getting married

Q: My question is in regards to my obligations to my parents. I am 26 years old and I have always respected my parents, loved them and still do. I am ready for marriage but my mother keeps putting obstacles on my way and she doesn’t want me to get married. She already said yes to a proposal with lots of hardships. She always says you’re going to have bad luck, you’re going to cry once you get married, you need to take care of your parents (although I have other sisters and brothers). She also doesn’t understand that one day her daughter will get married or at least she will have the right to get married but she always refuses and says everyone has taken care of their parents instead of marriage, why can’t you, please guide me what to do?

A wifes primary duty is her husband and children

Q: I am currently taking care of my parents who live in the unit next to me in a complex. My father wants me to buy a house so that I can accommodate the two of them (parents want to buy the house for me) but they do not want my husband to stay with us (they can't get along) and don't want my married children or grandchildren to visit on a regular basis. I cannot live without my husband and children. My parents want me exclusively to take care of them.

I'm the daughter and I have 3 brothers who don't want to take care of them because of previous issues with their wives. I do not mind living the way I'm living in a rented place because I have my own space and they have their own space.

Am I suppose to be listening to my parents or does my own family (husband) take priority. What is the Islamic view?