Q: If ones family member backbites another to express their frustrations with their behaviour, and does it constantly, what should they do?
Telling them to stop breaks the ties of trust and closeness, and listening to it incurs sin. What should I do?
If one makes tawbah, will they still lose their deeds on Qiyamah?
A: If the person is complaining about some wrong which was done to him/her by someone, then this is not regarded as gheebat. In such a case, one should console the person and advise him/her and try to help him/her come out of the problem.
However, if the person is running down someone and making gheebat of him/her, then one should either stop the person from the wrong they are committing or if this is not possible, then one should make an excuse and immediately move away from the gathering so that one does not become part of the sin of gheebat.
And Allah Ta'ala (الله تعالى) knows best.
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