Q: Is it permissible for women to wear shoes with a wedge. The whole shoe is one height and it doesn't make a tapping sound like heels.

Q: I was doing umrah last Thursday with my husband and kids. When I offering salaah in safa marwa I saw some water. That time I was not sure whether it was water or urine leaked from by daughter's diaper. But after I left haram I realized that  that was urine. I am so scared. What do I do? That urine must be touched the feet of many people in the haram. What will be my punishment. I am very scared. Please guide me.

Q: I want to ask a question about dating in Islam. I am dating a guy whom I love so dearly,we both want to get married in the future but there is a deep urge within me to be just a pious Muslim and stop all the bad things I am doing. So what I really want to know is if he and I repent to Allah and try to get engaged in the Islamic way, will Allah forgive us and accept our marriage as a lawful one in Islam. We both are pursuing our bachelor's degree and we want to wait until after that. I have been seeking answers for the past few weeks but a friend told me that the likelihood of Allah forgiving you of a sin you know is bad and still do is 0.1. So I am confused, I really need help.

Q: If a man says the word talaaq only once at a time, is the divorce valid?

Q: I personally dislike visiting restaurants/eating out, because I feel they are places of the dunya and a waste of money. However, my wife enjoys visiting restaurants and wants me to take her out to eat now and again. She agrees that we only go to places which have pardah facilities (screens), no music and reliable halaal food. Should I take my wife out to eat since this is important for her, and be thankful for the fact that she is particular with her parda and avoiding haram? Or should I follow my own feeling that eating out shows love of the dunya and is a waste of time and money, and thus refuse to take her out? If so, what alternatives can I provide her to keep her happy? My wife's background is such that she is not happy just sitting at home.

Q: I think I might be suffering from OCD as I constantly have doubts about everything. In the mornings when I wake up to pray fajar there is still lots of time left after I finish to go back to sleep, but I am always scared I might get a wet dream so I stay up. But this got very tiring after a week because I am still a student and so I decided to go to sleep. The problem is that I constantly or very frequently will worry about getting a wet dream because I used to get them quite frequently before and they caused me a lot of distress and made me have doubts all time and made my life very stressful and hard to live. So now every time I am going to sleep I am always worrying about it and sometimes I do get a wet dream I think (I don't know for sure if it is a wet ream because I have been told that a wet dream must contain an orgasm, and I never remember having one) in the morning it is very hard for me to know if there is extra wetness because I always have some vaginal discharge. The day before I was getting a lot so I couldn't tell this morning. I decided to do some research on it and found a female Muslim's article and read it and it says that I must have certainty that I had an orgasm to make ghusl. But since I suffer from doubts a lot all the time it is very hard for me. Before I would just make ghusl even if I wasn't sure but that caused my doubts to get even worse because even the smallest doubt I would go take a shower and make ghusl. My mom is very upset with me and gets angry if I take so many showers all the time So my questions are:

1) What do I do in these situations? I am a very doubtful person and can never tell. Do I just make ghusl every single time then? This caused me a lot of hardship in the past because I have many doubts all the time.

2) When I woke up this morning after having a wet dream I didn't remember having an orgasm and I didn't fully remember the dream and couldn't tell is there was extra wetness because I was having lots of vaginal discharge the day before so I didn't make ghusl. I had to go to school so I changed my clothes and when I came home I did wudu and prayed namaz, but then I was having doubts again. Did I do the right thing this morning, because I have done a lot of research and they always say unless you can make a promise to Allah saying your wudu has broken it hasn't, so since i wasn't sure at all I thought I would try to stop my doubtful thoughts by not doing my normal routine showering but then I just got more because I keeping thinking what if I did the wrong thing.

3) How can I over come these thoughts? They have controlled me for 2-3 years and they make doing simple things like namaaz and wudu very difficult for me. So do I still need to do ghusl even if i am not sure I had an orgasm in my wet dream at all? Are the clothes I wore to school napak now? Did my namaz not count?

4) After I went to the bathroom this morning to use the toilet before school I washed myself like I normally do after I urinate but there were drops of water after I got up from the toilet from the water I used that touches my clothes. Are my clothes napaak because i didn't do ghusl?

5) If I sat somewhere with those wet drops in my pants did the place like sofa or bed become napaak?

6) If I have wet dreams in the future when I don't remember them and am not sure if there was an orgasm and can't tell if there is extra wetness because of vaginal discharge what do I do becuase they happen frequently and when I wake up I am very sure I didn't have an orgasm because I don't remember having it at all but then my doubts start and I begin to worry that I am always making a mistake?

7) Since I didn't shower until the next day, did all the clothes I changed into get napaak too?

Please help me I am very troubled with my life right now. I think I have gone crazy. Thank you for helping me with my doubts may Allah reward you.

Q: I'm a 32 year old Muslim woman and have natural dread locked hair. I want to find out is it permissible to have and if not what do I do because a woman isn't allowed to cut off her hair?

Q: Our helper is interested in Islam, but when she tried to tell her parents about Islam, they tell her that she must leave if she accepts Islam and threatened to do something to her child (not sure what) as they believe here in the cities, they are too many religions and thinks Islam to be something like satanism. She wanted to know whether she can accept Islam but keep it a secret from her parents. I told her she can, but then started wondering whether it is right. She has already said the Kalima couple times repeating after my little brother when he came back from Madrassah but not formally. I think she believes, and she's eager to learn more about Salaah and that. Please advise as to what should I do, and is it okay for her to keep it a secret.

Q:

1. Is it Sunnah to sit cross legged after Fajr Salaah?

2. Which other times did Nabi (Sallallahu Alayhi Wasallam) sit cross legged?

Q: Is celebrating Muharram haraam in Islam?