Marital problems

Q: I'm married for 5 years and have no kids. My husband is a relative. My husband was having affair with his cousin before and after my marriage and he committed zina with her and taken photos of it. My in laws never supported me and started torturing me for dowry. I got separated in 2010 December because of his zina. Since then i'm living with my parents. In between my elders bought us back together many times in these 4 years but he did not change. his mother and his aunt control him. and his family is ruining my name in families. All the time they get away easily even though they are at mistake. In December 2013 my husband visited my house many times but only to lie and cheat me again. he told his mother and aunt don't want me to come so he did not take me with him. I called them for counselling many times they did not come. My case is in court now. My dad paid for my wedding by taking loan. My in laws made my dad pay for reception and also took lot of money prior marriage. I was working during separation as my husband never supported financially. But from two years i'm not working. But my husband has hired a lady lawyer and is not willing to give back our money spent in wedding nor paying maintenance. Even in court i'm failing. What ever i do i always fail in life. I want my in laws to do out of court settlement and return our money as my father is under heavy debt. His family is very heartless. I'm 30 years now. I want talaq from him so that they give me back our money and gifts given to me by my parents in wedding. I'm really worried every single second of losing this case as my in laws are criminal mind and very cunning specially my husband. They are trying to prove that i deserted him and i have ruined his life and tortured him. his lawyer is arguing in court not to give maintenance to me. Please give me a wazifa so that my husband divorces me and pay me maintenance in out of court settlement and this court case gets closed. I come from poor family. I'm the only daughter of my parents. There is no peace in our lives. All in my khandaan know my in laws are at fault but still i'm suffering.

Being involved in a haraam relationship

Q: I am a 19-year-old and am currently studying in a polytechnic. Recently I have had serious issues with my parents when they found out about my relationship with my boyfriend. I have been together with him for almost a year, although I am aware these kind of relationships are haram in Islam. I did not tell my parents about us from the beginning as I know they too would not approve of it. While with my boyfriend though, I wanted badly to turn our relationship into a halal one, since he had already agreed to make me his wife once he has the financial capacity. This however meant that we would need to wait at least 3 years before he has a stable job, since he is still studying in a polytechnic now as well. After being found out by my parents regarding our relationship, I stumbled upon a post on Twitter a few days later which talked about Nikah Khitbah. I do not know if it was God's way of showing me the solution to my problems, but it sure gave me a slight sense of relief, knowing that there is still a chance for me to be with my boyfriend the halal way, without having to worry too much about finances. However, I am scared of suggesting this to my parents, since they are still not happy with what they had found out. I love my boyfriend and I want to be able to spend my life with him in a way that is granted by God. But how do I approach my parents and convince them that Nikah Khitbah is what I would like to do, without potentially getting them angry again?

Wiping off impurities

Q: I am going through a dilemma. The thing is at my work place people eat haram food all the time. I have 2 co workers and the thing is I seen one of my co workers eating haram food and then he touched the phone that we use for our 24/7 work rotation shift. In about a month I will get that same phone. I saw his oily hands touch it after eating the meat taco. Should I wash the phone. Now just today he came to my desk and touched my mouse. Is my mouse considered napaak because with those same oily hands a month back he touched his mouse and all over his desk and then came over and touched my mouse. I figured this is all shaitaan so I just stopped worrying about it and left my mouse. But the phone is kind of putting me off should I wash it? It is a company phone I don't want to ruin it.