Doubts regarding ghusal

Q: I need to ask a question. I am at a young age. I want to learn so much about my deen and get close to Allah but I don't know what's  happened. I've been watching a lot of porn and every time I watch it I have to take ghusl and in the ghusl Khana I get a lot of wasswas while making fard ghusl that's why I do all these odd ways to make all the hairs wet but when I finish my ghusl I get extreme thoughts like your going to go hell because your ejaculated by watching porn and this ghusl is not correct that you have made and all that fard ghusl is all I think about every single day. Thats all I think about 24/7. I need help.

Making istikhara to see if one married the wrong person

Q: Can I read istikhara namaaz to see if I married the wrong person? I did read istikhara before I got married over a year ago, but I am beginning to think that my excitement may have affected it and I was too young at the time (19). Our fights are mentally and physically unhealthy for the both of us. How does a women ask for a divorce if the man doesn't want to give it?

Dream

Q: In my dream I was standing at the very peak of a mountain.I was so high that I actually touched the sky, and then I peeled back a piece of the sky, and I saw a very brilliant light which almost blinded me, so I quickly put back the peeled piece of sky.

Dream

Q: I am asking this question on behalf of one of my relatives. She said, her father passed away and before death he was shouting for the
whole night. After his death, he came in dream of some relative. The dead person was stuck in wooden bamboo cage (net) and was not speaking anything. Can you please tell what should we do for Esaal-e-sawaab?

Marital issues

Q: I need help. I'm a mother of three kids and my husband is in another country. It's been two months he is not replying to my emails or my
phone calls. I have called him 100 times with more than 100 emails. I need your help give me a dua so he can call me and talk to me because he is with friends who is making him do drugs and drink alcohol and telling him not go call me. I am married to him I am under his nikaah and he's neglecting me and my kids for his friends. He is not even supporting me with money. My father is helping me to pay my rent and utilities bills. Give me a dua so my husband can come back to me Insha Allah and listen to me and love me like he used to. Please send me a dua urgently it's been 2 months he didn't call or talk to me or his kids. When I call him he ignores my calls all his friends pick up his phone and tells me not to call him again. I am lost what to do my kids are crying and sick after the fathers voice when I email him that your kids are sick he used to say show me proof. That's all he would say and curse me blaming men on me. I need a dua urgently please. 

Eating and drinking Haraam

Q:

  1. Is there a hadith which says a person who eats or drinks haram, his dua and salah is not accepted for 40 days?
  2. After eating haram, if the person repents straight away will his dua and salah be accepted or it will still not be accepted until after 40 days?