Inheritance

Q: I wanted to ask a question regarding Islamic will as my dad wants to write his will. He currently has two properties, first one in uk which is on my father's name and the Second one in pakistan which is on both my parents names. Alhumdulilah both my parents are alive. We are 4 brothers and sisters, i.e. 2 brothers and 2 sisters. 3 of us are married and my younger brother is single. Elder brother has 3 children (2 daughters and 1 son). The rest have no children. Can you please guide us on how the wealth will be divided amongst everyone. Who will receive a share and who won't?

Boy's father not attending the nikaah

Q: I am an Indonesian, married to a Sudanese (living in Madinah, KSA). We married in my parents' house (un listed in government), while all his family members and his mother knew that we were getting marriedm except his father. His father actually knew but he said himself that officially he din't know because he doesn't accept our marriage, because my husband is still studying. The problem now, my parents want us to make it in government soon and everything is just being controlled. While I really wish for his father to bless us for our marriage, what do I have to do?

Respect for the husband

Q: Due to this hadith and seemingly degrading hadiths on women, I'm having doubts and resentments towards men. Can women decide to never be married? The Prophet (sallallahu alaihi wasallam) said: “It is not right for any human being to prostrate to another; if it were right for one human being to prostrate to another, I would have commanded women to prostrate to their husbands because of the great rights that they have over them. By the One in Whose hand is my soul, if a man were covered from head to foot with weeping sores oozing pus, and his wife were to come to him and lick his sores (to clean them), this would not fulfil the rights he has over her.’”

It's been days and I can't get over it. Explain this. If marriage means this,  I don't know what to think or say. These hadiths really distress me that much. Not only I have my own problems; now I have to read these hadiths which really discourage and sadden me.

Touching one's father in law

Q: Somedays ago my father in law was ill. He is 76 yrs old and suffering brain stroke. When he was ill my mother in law was taking off his shirt because he was sweating. But she couldn't do it, so I helped her and touched my father in law's hand. Then I saw that his hand and my husbands hand is almost same type. I did not know what was the exact feeling, is it funny or surprising. Then I didn't give attention to it and I normally helped him. It was total of 1 or 1.5 min that I touched his hand. But I can remember very clearly that I felt disgusted when I touched his body because he was sweating. Then I removed my hand and washed it. Does that cause any harm in my relationship? My father in law cannot walk by himself, can't do anything without other's help. He can't move when he is lying in the bed. He can't even take his meal himself.

Doubts in salaah

Q: I lead the jamaat for asr salaah. In the second rakaat after surah fatiha, I'm not sure if I read another surah. I finished the salaah with this doubt in my mind. The maslah says that you must choose what your heart is more inclined to while you in salaah but when I read this salaah, I didn't know about this maslah. Should I make qadha of the salaah?

Marital problems

Q: I am married to my cousin for about 7 months now. It was an arranged marriage. After Nikah he showed his true colors. And since then I'm being emotionally and mentally abused by him. He also disagrees in sending me allowance (which is my right since I'm his responsibility). I want to take khula from him but I'm afraid that my relations with my relatives will be disrupted and they won't let me or my parents live in peace. What can I do?