in-laws

Bride prevented from seeing in-laws house before marriage

Submitted by user2 on Tue, 2018-02-06 07:04

Q: There is a tradition when the bride's parents go to the groom's house for discussion, they leave the bride at home. The groom, his parents, bride's parents, everyone are present in the discussion related to marriage, except the bride. The bride is not even allowed to see her in laws house before marriage.

I feel all these rules are made by the society to deprieve a woman of her rights. Since it is her marriage, the bride should be allowed to be present during the discussions, just like the boy. And she should be allowed to see her in laws house before marriage, as she will be spending her entire life there. I am getting married soon, so I just want to know if visiting the groom's house with parents and taking part in discussions, will not be against Islam.

Providing separate quarters for the wife

Submitted by user2 on Thu, 2018-01-04 07:11

Q: I am married for 3 and half years. I stay with my in laws but its very difficult to stay with them. I want my husband to take a seperate house. What is the process and how can I do it?

Informing one's in-laws about one's past

Submitted by user2 on Wed, 2017-11-15 08:02

Q: I have been married for a few years and have children. When the wedding talk was happening, my in laws to be were told that my dad married twice and has children with both wives. They reacted negatively and almost used this reason to stop the talk. Due to their negative reaction, I didn't disclose that my mother was married before and has two children from her previous marriage. But after the wedding I only told my husband. Now, I'm scared of telling my in laws as they are very old fashioned and traditional. I am still in contact with my half-siblings (I'm sure their feeling are hurt by this). What is the Islamic ruling in this situation. I have no secrets from my husband.

Is it compulsory for a girl to live with her in-laws?

Submitted by user2 on Sat, 2017-11-11 06:41

Q: Is it compulsory for a girl to live with her mother and father in law ?

Soosral dakhal andaazi karna

Submitted by user2 on Thu, 2017-11-09 06:29

Q: Mere wife ke parents or uske brothers and sister har chiz me dakal andaze karte chahe wo gr ke ho ya bahar ke problems kuch be ho wo dakal andaze karte hai jis ke waja se hum dono husband and wife aksar bohat pareshan hote hai or iske waje se hum dono ke bech me be maslae hojate hai ap ko asa wazifa bataye k Allah paak unko samaj or Allah paak unko sae rasta dekae ya koi asa amal ho please mashwara den.

Sursraal ke ghar me shirk ki baate

Submitted by user2 on Mon, 2017-10-23 06:25

Q: Mri shadi ko hue aj 4 mahinay hogaye hn main jis ghar main shaadi ho kay gai hun whn par peer o murshid ko sb kch manna jata hai main jab wahn rahi mainy daikha whn aik kamra hai jo safaid pardon sy dhakka hai jisko wo apnay peer yani janasheen ka kamra khty hn wo log unkay agy nauzubillah Sallah alaihi walai wasalm lagaty hn wo log us kamry main jaty hn roz ka mamool hai whn mard log us ghar ky kursi kay hathon ko chomty hn jisko wo dars bosi khty hn r aurten sajda karti hn jisko wo qadam bosi khty hn wo un kursi ky agy dua mangty hn mjhy ye karny ko kaha gaya mainy nahi kia abh main hamla ki halat main hn un logon kay ghar main quran kay phly page par blue pan sy apny peer ki hidayat likhi hain main namaz parhti hn tw khty hn ye sakht suraten hn main yaseen shareef parhti hn tw khty hn kay ye jo tm parhti ho issay hamary upar sakhti na ajaye quran o hadees ki roshni main mjhy kia karna chahiye is wqt mainy shohar sy alag ghar ka mutalba kia hua hai r kaha hai ye sb kam ap chor den jo kay galat hn abh ap mjhy bataye mjhy kiya karna chahiye is wqt quran o hadees ki roshni main.

Contraceptives

Submitted by user2 on Thu, 2017-10-12 07:17

Q: I wanted to enquire if it is permissible for me to use the coil or any other contraceptives. The reason being is that I got married 8 months ago and ever since I have been facing alot of problems at the hands of my mother in law. Problems were increasing day by day which included abuse, emotional harassment and insult. My husband wasn't able to do much either and it all resulted in big arguments with my husband too.

Now its been 2 months since I'm at my parents house and the problems just increased and went to such an extent where my marriage was on the verge of ending. Im trying to makeup with my in-laws with the help of my father in law, however I dont think I can have children after all these issues. I would like to see if my husband has realised his mistakes and actually changed in the long run before I plan to have children. My husband isnt willing to understand this point of mine but I think I cant risk my life or my childs life as if things remain the same I will have to seek khula which I hope doesn't happen.

Thus would it be permissible for me to have the coil inserted or use any other methods of contraceptive without my husband's consent and it being in his knowledge. I hope this isnt classed as me decieving my husband.

Relationship with in-laws after the demise of one's husband

Submitted by admin on Tue, 2017-08-15 08:06

Q: When a husband passes away a) does the husbands father (father inlaw) remain a mahram for the wife? b) does the wife still have to go and visit her father in law? Or does she no longer have any relation with her inlaws? c) is it appropriate for the wife to say that that is my 'father inlaw' and 'mother inlaw'?

Marital issues

Submitted by user2 on Tue, 2017-08-08 08:24

Q: I'm a 29 years old  married woman and i have a 10 months old baby. But because of some problems between my mother in-law and sister in-laws, I decided to leave that house and now I'm living with my parents. I love my husband a lot but he is not ready to support me. He wants to leave me. I really don't want to live with my in-laws but don't want to leave my husband. What should I do ???

Marital problems

Submitted by user2 on Thu, 2017-07-13 08:28

Q: I am unable to adjust with my in-laws. The moment I decide to have a family feeling they taunt me for my work done and my mom's family related to dowry. I don't want to have any hard feelings on them please suggest me Islamic way to deal my relationship with them and my husband. Going to be a mother soon please suggest me some things to do to have a obedient child.

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