Masaail pertaining to the Wali and Compatibility between spouses

Q: A friend states the following problem he is in. He has been in contact with a girl for just under two years. The girls parents agree for them to make nikaah but the girl's granny (daadi) refuses for it to happen since the boy is not Gujraati speaking, he is from an Urdu background. The granny has brought numerous guys to view the girl despite her not agreeing. So the father of the girl is trapped between his daughter and his mother. She also says that it is not jaaiz for the two since he is from a lower cast and what will her family say to them. My friend wants to make nikaah with the girl and she is afraid of marrying another person since she has opened up herself to him and he is the only guy she has been in contact with. So she cannot get into nikaah with someone else because she will fall into haraam with this guy again. Please advise should the guy's family approach the girl's family for a nikaah?

Q: I have a divorcee woman with 3 teenage kids that wants to marry me. She is very adamant. I do not see her as suitable life partner but I worry that I might sin with her or someone else as I am not yet married. I have been told she does not need a wali, but can we conduct the nikaah ourselves as we are both reasonably old. What is the simplest way we can do nikaah just for ourselves.

Q: Who will be a representative of a revert Muslim women. All her family, parents, etc are non Muslim. 

Q: A girl got a good proposal for her marriage. Everybody is satisfied with all other aspects except the boy's age, he is only one year older than the girl so, as the girls get older soon due to delivery and all, girls parents are in confusion whether to accept the proposal or not. May mufti Saheb please give your precious suggestion in this regard?

Q: Kindly assist me if possible. My eldest son is 23 years old and Alhamdulillah he is a hafiz as well. He is ready for marriage and it is his wish to marry in the Sayyid family (lineage of our Prophet Sallallahu Alayhi Wasallam). How do I find someone as per his wish. Please make dua that Allah Ta'ala grants him a suitable spouse.

Q: I am a girl of 33 years old and not yet married. I always get many marriage proposals and I have never accept anyone. If I would get married tomorrow that is easy but the problem is that most of people are experiment people, means that unfortunately they have done many things before marriage and that is for me not possible to marry someone like that. I feel we are so different, but today it is very difficult to find that person, even impossible. I am lost, I don't know what should I do. I am afraid that after marriage I feel bad living with this person. Could you please advices me and share with me your valuable opinion.

Q: I am 24 years old and I am Bangladeshi. I want to marry a woman who is 11 years older than me, Pakistani, divorced and has a five year old child. As you can see I face monumental hurdles to convince my mother. I am aware that I don't need anyones permission to get married, however, I want my mother to be happy with this marriage. So far I have mentioned to my mother that the woman is Pakistani and my mother has refused even though I have explained that in Islam this is not an issue. I would like to ask the mufti what I can do to convince my mother? I am making plenty of dua that Allah softens her heart and makes her accept. I am also subtly talking about the issue. Also, what can I do if my mother doesn't agree? Is it a sin for me to marry without my mums consent or would it be a sin on my mother for preventing this marriage?

Q: When one intends nikaah, what qualities should one look for in the person one wishes to get married to?

Q: I love a girl, she is Agha Khani and she loves me too. She sits in i'tikaaf for me. She done all things even hijab. After a few days her mother asked why are you wearing hijab, and my family knows I love her and, her family knows she loves me. Now our families are not agreeing. What should I do?I will do any thing for her. I am facing very big problems. Please help me as soon as you can.

Q: Please could you advise me on the following matter. I am considered Islamically mature and have been for nearly 10 years. I have met a potential spouse who was introduced to my family and wants to make nikkah with me. My family are refusing based on the following reasons:

1. The age difference between him and I is too much (9years)

2. He is too old for me (he is 27 years old)

3. I am too young (19 years)

4. I do not have a degree/career and I am cannot stand on my own two feet yet

5. He resides in a different continent

6. He is from a different cast to me

In terms of his Deen and character, we have heard pleasing feedback from neutral sources. He earns a halaal income and will be able to provide for me. His family are very supportive. They have agreed to send me home twice a year and allow me to continue my studies, illustrating their willingness to accommodate my family's reservations as far as possible. But to no avail unfortunately; my father does not want me to take this step despite my plight. My father and I do not have the same understanding, because he would rather the boy and I "go for coffee" and "go for movies" and remain friends. However I unlike him realize there are 3 things that shouldn't be delayed (salaah, burial and nikkah), and we shouldn't refuse proposals based on unIslamic reasoning. My father unfortunately has not made the wisest decisions in his lifetime which makes me want to do the 'right' thing even more; in a halal manner. I myself have made istikhara and feel very content in my choice of a life partner. I continue to make duaa for guidance from The Almighty. Please advise the way forward considering my father is using abusive language, due to me still being firm in this decision of mine. His reasoning for me is not Shariah compliant, feel free to correct me if I am mistaken.