Masaail pertaining to the Wali and Compatibility between spouses

Q: One of my friend proposed me 2 years back. I liked him from the beginning but I had a firm mindset that if my parents agree then we'll get married otherwise not. During the summer holidays I went back home and told my parents about him and they both said no. I thought that if they meet him once, they might change their mind. I told my brothers about him, they met him and they both said that he is a pious person with good character but if dad has said no then its a NO. Then I told my friend that my parents refused.

We had a few fights but we again became friends. 2 months back I started spending more time with him as I lost almost all my other friends but we always tried our best to maintain a halal distance. He started mentioning about the secret nikah here and there. Everytime he did, I got annoyed at him and told him not to think about it.

One day he said that either we do nikah or our friendship will be over forever. I said that if you want to finish the freindship then go ahead... bear in mind that at that time I was going through a tough time and depression and loneiness.

After a couple of days I went to him and said to him that I'm ready for the nikah. We did nikah in the presence of 2 witnesses who were both Muslim and mature.

My question is, according to the Hanafi fatwa "a mature girl can give herself in marriage without walis consent in the presence of 2 witnesses but the both boy and girl should be of same "social status".

That boy is African and I'm Pakistani. Do you think that the 2nd part of the fatwa in anyway nullifies the nikah or makes it invalid?

Q: I am 32 years old. I am married with 2 kids. I want to marry a girl who is 17 years old but she is young so she can't tell her parents. To avoid sin we have accepted each other in front of two Muslims that we are husband and wife. I asked her "do you accept me as your husband" and she said "yes". Are we husband and wife now?

Q: My question is that I met this girl and she and I have good intentions but I got to find out from her that her father treated her mother very badly and abandoned her and her children. So now she now she said that shew doesn’t consider her father a part of her life and when she meets him she doesn’t even talk to him.

1. Is she right to do this to her father? 

2. Can I ask for her hand in marriage from another person when her father is still alive just because she is not on good terms with him?

Q: My friend wants to marry. His mother is a Muslim but not religious and not practising (does not cover herself properly, no 5-time prayer, etc) and even has a boyfriend (she was divorced a while ago). My friend asked me how to approach a girl in university? Obviously, the proper way is through the parents, elders or imams, etc. Actually, I personally also need guidance on this matter. He says "since my mum is not religious, I cannot really approach the girl to speak and deliver my proposal as mum is not interested and would not be really helpful in this matter since she herself is involved in a haram relationship..."

Please, advise us on this topic. How to approach a girl whom you would like to propose? For example, if the girl is with several female friends at university, and they are near but do not hear the conversation between us, is this allowed? Or write something on a paper and give it to her in the presence of her friends (without writing any contact info except phone number just to hear her response, or write in the letter to give it back if she only sees him with friends, just letting her know about the intention to meet with her in front of her mahrams?) How can my friend eventually "catch" a girl at university in this case? I guess parents/elders/imaam will not go to university for this? 

Q:

1. Is there equality in marriage between a Gujarati boy and a Pashtun girl?

2. Is there equality in lineage between Gujaratis and Pashtuns?

Q: I have an adopted girl (minor). I want to perform my Nikah with her. How can that be done as usually its the guardian that would do this but I am the guardian.

Q: My elder sister is a divorcee and is 38 years old now. Last 10-12 years she was in love with a Hindu boy who is ready to convert to Islam for marriage. My Mom did not apporve of this relationship and passed away 5 months back. My sister is not ready to marry anybody else and says she will only marry that boy. My question is, if the boy is ready to convert to islam can this marriage be done and what should be done for him to become a muslim?

Q: Can a Sayyid marry a Turk?

Q: Can a woman get married without the approval of her wali?

Q: I'm a doctor by profession and inshallah a child specialist very soon... I am 29 years old... My father wants me to marry his nephew who is a laboratary technician and works in a lab... I personally don't want to marry him because I want that someone should be of my rank at least, other wise my friends and others will make fun of me.

Now, my father is insisting on his point of view for the last 10 years... He rejects proposals from outside and my parents continuously force that my cousins proposal is a good proposal... They say that If I marry out of the family then I will suffer a lot... The boy can beat me and send me home.

I'm stuck between not to marrying my cousin and the fear of marrying intp an unknown family. I want to ask whether I should do as my parents my parents say as they are old and in depression? They even curse me that I am the reason behind their distress and suffering and if I will not follow their wish, I will never be happy. Please guide me.