Masaail pertaining to the Wali and Compatibility between spouses

Q: I got married 9 years ago, when I was baaligh. I did a court marriage to protect myself from sins, in Pakistan. During our nikaah we had 2 male witnesses, molvi judge and Surah Al Nisa was recited and dua was made and we both consented with heart.

As per constitution of Pakistan (Islamic country) nikah is valid. But there was no wali present or consented at the time of nikah. As I didn't inform anyone as I knew they will not agree. Neither I knew that a wali is mandatory at that time nor my husband knew, neither did the molvi who did the nikaah told that to us. He was also a nikah registrar.

Soon after my nikaah, within a month my family came to know about my nikaah. Initially there was hype then they agreed and my father sent me back to his house in multan. Then after some time my rukshati was also done with my elder sister (married to his elder brother).

I was an ignorant Muslim at thay time. Now since 1 year I have changed a lot and reverted to Allah and I fear Him for all my sins. I have around a 5 years old son too. Today I saw videos on YouTube telling me that "No nikaah is valid without a wali - and a woman that does her own nikaah is zaani". I see different sects groups and fatwas, some hanafi says nikaah is valid, some says wali is not required, while others say nikaah is not valid, without a wali.

Q: 2 years ago I married a Muslim distant relative of mine in the presence of 2 adult male Muslim witnesses (my uncles) and my older sister, in front of the imam and court lawyer that prepared our official marriage contract.

My marriage took place without my fathers permission and he was not aware of my marriage until recently. My father has forgiven me and is now accepting my marriage.

I had married my fathers nephew from his cousins side. My father always wished to make him his son in law but after a family dispute my father wanted nothing to do with his family anymore.

Me and my husband live in different countries. When we visit my parents home country we would stay with my fathers relatives. So that is how me and my now husband developed feelings for each other and we wanted to make our relationship halal especially before I went back home. We wanted to make sure our communication with each other going forward would be halal. He is a religious man and that is the main reason why I wanted to be married to him.

After the family dispute, my sister and I were still living in the house of my fathers relatives under the supervision of my aunt and uncles. My father and mother had chose to live in another house until we returned to USA. Me and my husband both wanted to get married and consulted with our uncle and then peformed our nikaah the following day.

Since that day I have never doubted that my marriage was invalid because to my knowledge witnesses have to be present for the marriage to be valid. Recently some relatives of mine were showing me hadiths that claim that a woman that gets married without her guardians permission, her marriage is invalid.

Me and my husband both fear Allah and want to know for sure if our marriage is indeed valid or not. Is the marriage valid because I had 2 male witnesses. Was my marriage not valid because I did not ask for my fathers permission prior to preforming the nikaah. Would the marriage be valid now because my father is accepting my marriage and is please with my husband and communicating with his family once again. Would I have to perform a remarriage to have a valid marriage? 

Q: Is it regarded as sinful if a person gets married against his parents wishes?

Q: Can a girl get married without her parents/wali's permission? I read a fatwa that the marriage will be invalid without the girls parents/wali's permission. Please guide.

Q: Is horse meat and horse milk allowed in Islam or is it makrooh?

Can I marry a man who eats horse meat because it's their culture but he is a Muslim because in their country all Muslims eat horse meat. 

Q: I am going to marry a girl with the permission of my family members and not with the girl's family. Can I perform the nikaah again infront of her family members afterwards?

Q: Does the mother of a woman have to give consent for the daughter's nikaah? Or is the permission of the daughter's father or wali sufficient?

What if a mother disagrees but the daughter and father agree, is the nikaah valid? The mother never said there was an Islamic reason for her disapproval she always gave un-Islamic reasons for her disapproval.

Q: What is the correct way to get permission from a woman if she wants to get married?

Q: Can a Sayyid girl marry a non-Sayyid? Is there any restrictions in Islam?

Q: I am a married man. I was in love with a Hindu girl even before my wedding. Now I feel that I need to seperate from my wife and marry the Hindu girl. My wife is ready for a second marriage but the Hindu girl does not want to accept it. She will be a Muslim after the wedding. I dont have much feeling left for my wife and my life is really a problem without the other girl. What should I do?