Walima

Q: I want to ask about the conditions of making waleemah halaal in detail. Is it obligatory to have sexual intercourse or any kind of intimacy of like kissing, smooching, touching etc. to make waleemah halaal under normal conditions? What if the waleemah is planned after 2 days of wedding, and the bride and groom or only bride wants some time to make understanding between both of them prior to any kind of intimacy. Would the waleemah be not halaal in that case? Please explain it in detail as I am so worried.

Q: Is permissible to have a walima in the same town where we had the wedding?

Q: My brother had nikah in a situation where his mother in-law was suffering from cancer and passed away one week before marriage so he had no walima done. Now after Ramdhaan my mother got seriously ill and had to opt for lumbar spine. She has to be in bed for at least three months. We are three siblings, two sisters and brother. Both sisters also married. Is it allowed for my brother to bring his wife without walima to look after my mother?

Q: If anybody with sadqa intention give marriage food is it allowed or not? People who are eating this food do not know it is sadqa.

Q: Can just by preparing a sweet dish and inviting 10 relatives walima can be done?

Q:

1. Should a nikaah be performed on a Friday say after Jumma salaat can the walima has be held on the Sunday?

2. Should the groom not have enough finances to host a walimah, can the boy and girl have a joined function where expenses are halved and both parties contribute?

3. Should the groom not have finances can just the walima be held?

4. In today's time there has come about a thing of reception which is held after the nikaah but before the walimah. Is this allowed ? And should this be allowed? Can it be that there is a Friday nikaah and Saturday reception but with no walima?

Q: In December I will be getting married and and my father wants to do walima in a very simple way like only family memebers of our home (sister, their husbands and my brother and her fiance) for a lunch or dinner gathering at my home. And by doing this we want to save money and wants to do two things.

1. Arrangement of lunch for the 500 kids of the madrasa on the same day.

2. Hajj performance for me and my wife in the same year.

Nowadays, minimum 6 lac required for any kind of ceremony for the 500 people and we think that its completely waste of money and showoff. So we want to utilise money in this way. Although we can do the ceremony like its happening these days but we think that feeding 500 madrasa kids is more important than the wealthy people. My questions are as follows:

1. Is this right doing this way?

2. Is this money can be used for hajj or not?

3. Walima is sunnat, will this be accomplished by doing it in this way? By feeding madrasa kids? Looking forward for your guidance.

Q: A person in my family is arranging a walima dinner for his son. As he is poor, he is going to pay the dinner expenditures from the amount of zakaat received by others (including myself). My question is, is it permissible for me to attend the walima dinner?

Q: I need your advice. My daughter intends to get married but only wants nikaah the Sunnah way. She does not want a wedding. The groom is having a walimah. Will it be right to contribute half the expense and invite some more of my family to the walimah?

Q: I am from Durban and getting married in Cape Town and therefore cannot have a walima within 3 days. Is it permissible to have a walimah 3 weeks later?