Various masaail of Nikaah

Which husband will a widow have in Jannah?

Q: I recently was asked to speak to a young man who wanted his mother to divorce her second husband. Whilst there were many valid reasons put forward as to why this divorce should go through, one statement was made which I do not fully comprehend. The son mentioned that when a woman re-marries, she will be in Jannah with the last man she was married to. Is this correct? In this case the woman was widowed as her husband was shot and killed in a robbery. The woman , no doubt , still has a lot of love and feeling for her late husband. They seem to be concerned about her ending up with her first husband in Jannah and hence justify the divorce from the second husband.Please advise.

Secondly, what is the Islamic viewpoint regarding making conditions on a person before nikah? For example, the woman will not fulfill conjugal rights or the woman will stay closer to her family instead of her in laws. Please advise.

Book for newly married couples

Q: I'm getting married inshallah after two months, please suggest me some good book which is helpful for me and my bride for our married life, covering body neatness, marriage rituals and manners after marriage. Please send a PDF or a website link of those books so that I can download.

Seeking permission from the first wife for second marriage

Q: I have recently got married last month but our honeymoon was full of eyn (bad eye) and shytan. During the honeymoon my wife would talk and have open conversations with taxi drivers and walk ahead of me and always on her phone and we had a fight where I lightly slapped her on the side of her head. Also she did not allow me to have sex with her for the last 7 days of the honeymoon. She did not respect me and was very rude in the manner she spoke to me in and 2 nights she slept in a different room! She would always be on her phone and not talk to me I told her many times I don't like this but she said I don't care! There have been soooo many issues during this time! She has disrespected me telling me that I do not want your money and take ur presents back!

Before the honeymoon she had asked for divorce 4 times because I contact her too much call and text too much. When she went home she told her family about me slapping her and her family obviously went crazy n want divorce now but it's still debatable!!

So I am now in a situation where there is another lady I loved before this arranged marriage and I wish to marry her. Do I need by islam to confirm with the first wife or should I wait till I'm divorced?? I want to know what to do and what is halal and what is haram.