Masaail relating to intimacy

Being considerate to one's wife in regard to sexual relations

Q: Is it wrong to have a high sex drive? I love having frequint sex with my wife. Sometimes I want sex for one time 3 nights in a row or very seldom twice in one night and sumtimes once every second night. Mostly we have sex once every third to fourth night. She complains and has a problem with this because she doesn't want to wet her hair so often and its frustrates me if she refuses or when she finds a problem with this. Is this normal to feel frustrated what is the ruling about the amount of sex I can have with my wife?

Masturbation

Q: We are a relatively young couple and happily married with two children. One thing missing in our marriage is intimacy and sex. Its been like this for
the last 9 years. My wife has declared that she is no longer interested in this side of marriage and wants to be left alone. Sexual frustration and being faithful has been a huge battle and test so far and to keep this in check would occasional masturbation be allowed?

Marital intimacy

Q: Is pleasuring the private part via tongue, hand classed as zinna/fornication? Is it punishable by hadd? How can one hope for forgiveness for such a disgusting sin as apparently repentance for major sin is not always accepted.