Masaail relating to intimacy

Understanding the needs of the wife

Q:

  1. Is it permissible for a women to masturbate if she doesn't get full satisfaction after intercourse with her husband? If not she has to wait a minimum of three days. How does she control herself?
  2. If the wife needs to have intercourse maybe every third night and the husband says that's too frequent, also at rare times the wife needs the husband sooner. How should she fulfil her need? Because this leads to masturbation.
  3. If a women has a dream where she is sexually aroused and satisfied. Upon awakening there is no wetness. Is ghusl fardh?

Husband unable to consummate the marriage

Q: I am a female married 3 months back and me and my husband love each other a lot Masha Allah. He is kind and supporting. We have not been able to consummate our marriage till today because of the condition called vaginismus, of which I came to know on the very first moment we tried to have intercourse. Please give me some wazeefa's and duas and amals that will help us overcome this condition of mine. I am in great distress. Please tell me a solution.