Masaail relating to intimacy

Husband not satisfying his wife

Q: A women is blessed with a great husband in all aspects. But the only problem is that he doesn't satisfy her in bed. Most of the time when he approaches her, he uses her body to arouse and satisfy himself (without even involving her at all). As a result, the wife is left disappointed and frustrated and that makes her think of her husband as selfish.

The couple have a few months old baby and the wife wants a few months break before trying for the next baby. Is this a valid excuse for him not to satisfy his wife? Is it not obligatory for the husband to please the wife everytime he pleases himself? The wife has tried to tell him politely a few times and he admits this but this is happening over and over again. Please advise.

Sex toys

Q: May I ask why Muslims have become interested in things like 'sex toys' in marriage? It seems all very strange and weird. What is the cause of this odd interest by Muslims?

I researched this and the manufacture or sale of 'sex toys' was actually prohibited in South Africa by the apartheid government. The ruling was lifted only in 2007 by parliament.

Husband touching the wife in haidh

Q: I am aware that when a woman is on her periods the area from her belly button to her knees must be covered. But if a woman on her periods is wearing only underwear and the man is wearing only underwear and they both rub their private parts on each other, does this break their nikah as the woman was not covered only her private part was?

Wife masturbating her husband

Q: Is it allowed to make your husband ejaculate by rubbing his private parts? I usually hold the private part in my hand and husband then holds my hand and rub the private part means my hand is between his private part and his hand. His hand is not directly touching his private part. So will it be allowed to make him orgasm in this way?