Advice

Encouraging one's children to accept Islam

Q: I was a Hindu and have two daughters. I have married a Muslim man after accepting Islam but my daughters 14 and 12 years old have not accepted Islam. We are trying our best to make them understand and accept Islam. If they don't accept Islam what should I do? Please let me know. Am I at fault? Does Islam say this that if children do not accept Islam then no relation should be kept with them?

Marital issues

Q: I am married for four month. My wife doesn't initiate sex with me, every time I have to go close to her to do sex. In Islam can a husband can kiss his wife's private part? I am frustrate because my wife doesn't show her feelings toward me.

Black magic

Q: I am very much puzzled and in serious crisis.I was a happy person but since 2013, my business is ruined. Whatever efforts I make becomes useless. People like my work, products and satisfied with my dealings but suddenly after few days they do not contact me. Now I am in a very bad and serious financial crisis. I have to pay thousands of money to many people. I do pray but it looks like my dua/prayers are not listened by Allah. Some say that I and my business are under the effects of black magic. Please help me as I have now lost all hope.

Medical problem

Q: I am suffering from erectile dysfunction from four years. I have used ayurvedic medicines but no cure. Please suggested me which medicine is best for ED. Either allopathy, homeopathy or ayurveda or unani. My marriage proposal is also pending since 3 years. Now my age is 28. Please suggest me best clinic remedies and duas.

Children and upbringing

Q: I have a five year old daughter and a 5 year old grand daughter. My grand daughter has very very bad manners and bad character. She has no way of speaking even to her own parents, back chats, lies etc. The problem is my five year old daughter is picking up all these bad habits. We live just fifteen min utes away from each other so naturally we meet often. What do I do to save my daughter from picking up all the bad habits. She tries to imitate my grand daughter in every way. Jazakallah for your time.

Lift club

Q: If you have a lift club for school going kids, with five kids that are from four families. Three of the families have one child in the lift club each and the fourth family has two children in the lift club. What would be the most fair and correct way of sharing the lift club responsibilities? Would the family that has two kids, do two rounds in every cycle (that is two weeks in every five weeks, with the other families doing one week each in every five week cycle)? Or would each family do one week each in every cycle (that is one week in every four week cycle) regardless of them having one or two of their kids in the lift club? Would the same apply if the family has more kids? Would they do rounds in proportion to the amount of kids they have in the lift club?

Accident with a bicycle

Q: Two months back, there was an accident from my car. I was turning my car from my street and suddenly the bike was hit by my car. The bike's speed was fast and my car was turning slowly. There was one little child and a man on that bike. The girl got bruised and the man fell on his chest. I took them to the hospital's emergency centre. Got their treatments and all tests done. The doctor showed me the X ray report that all was fine. I came back home and called them how were they feeling. They were fine. But two days back the guy's family called me that he has become handicapped now and operations need to be done. They asked me for money. I told them I didn't have enough money. So they started threatening and blackmailing me that they would file a case against me if I don't pay them money for his operation. They use fowl languages via text messages. Am really depressed. Please guide me what to do. Do I owe them money? Have I committed a sin?

Breaking an engagement

Q: I am a girl and I am engaged with my relative from 3 years back but now I don't find satisfaction in this relation. I also did istikhara. I asked to cancel the alliance. My relatives are upset for it. Do I have a right to cancel it according to Islam. Please reply.

Haraam relationship

Q: I'm in a relationship since the last 3 years. I know it is haram and I want to end it but whenever I try to end it he blackmails me by saying he will tell it to my family and will show my conversation to my parents and siblings. I'm afraid of the disgrace my parents and brother would suffer because of me. I somewhere inside also want to marry him but in a halaal way. Please guide me.