Advice

Q: I have a five year old daughter and a 5 year old grand daughter. My grand daughter has very very bad manners and bad character. She has no way of speaking even to her own parents, back chats, lies etc. The problem is my five year old daughter is picking up all these bad habits. We live just fifteen min utes away from each other so naturally we meet often. What do I do to save my daughter from picking up all the bad habits. She tries to imitate my grand daughter in every way. Jazakallah for your time.

Q: If you have a lift club for school going kids, with five kids that are from four families. Three of the families have one child in the lift club each and the fourth family has two children in the lift club. What would be the most fair and correct way of sharing the lift club responsibilities? Would the family that has two kids, do two rounds in every cycle (that is two weeks in every five weeks, with the other families doing one week each in every five week cycle)? Or would each family do one week each in every cycle (that is one week in every four week cycle) regardless of them having one or two of their kids in the lift club? Would the same apply if the family has more kids? Would they do rounds in proportion to the amount of kids they have in the lift club?

Q: Two months back, there was an accident from my car. I was turning my car from my street and suddenly the bike was hit by my car. The bike's speed was fast and my car was turning slowly. There was one little child and a man on that bike. The girl got bruised and the man fell on his chest. I took them to the hospital's emergency centre. Got their treatments and all tests done. The doctor showed me the X ray report that all was fine. I came back home and called them how were they feeling. They were fine. But two days back the guy's family called me that he has become handicapped now and operations need to be done. They asked me for money. I told them I didn't have enough money. So they started threatening and blackmailing me that they would file a case against me if I don't pay them money for his operation. They use fowl languages via text messages. Am really depressed. Please guide me what to do. Do I owe them money? Have I committed a sin?

Q: I am a girl and I am engaged with my relative from 3 years back but now I don't find satisfaction in this relation. I also did istikhara. I asked to cancel the alliance. My relatives are upset for it. Do I have a right to cancel it according to Islam. Please reply.

Q: I'm in a relationship since the last 3 years. I know it is haram and I want to end it but whenever I try to end it he blackmails me by saying he will tell it to my family and will show my conversation to my parents and siblings. I'm afraid of the disgrace my parents and brother would suffer because of me. I somewhere inside also want to marry him but in a halaal way. Please guide me.

Q: I feel very disturbed right now. I know I havn't been sincere the whole time I was practicing deen and I have even had polluted intentions of practicing whole deen. From what I understand is that none of my ibaadat will get excepted except durroods. What can a person like me do in this situation. I know that I still need to obey Allah regardless but I feel very miserable right now and it is affecting my ibaadat. Please help.

Q: I am 15/16 years old. I have unfortunately fallen in love with my cousin. I don't know how it happened but it did. I tell myself that it's infatuation. I really don't know what to do. My thoughts are about him for more than 1/4 of the day. I hardly ever speak to him. Either way we don't generally communicate. We do if there's a need. I do unfortunately see him and there's no purda between us. I need help. I want to stop thinking about him. I am not in the position for marriage right now, I want to focus on my studies. I feel sad when I see him on social networks etc. and not following me back or liking other girls posts, tweets or pictures. etc. I hate myself so much for feeling like this. The thoughts come and I don't know what to do. Sometimes I literally bite my arm to stop my stupid mind. Please advise on what can I do? I am doing hifz and Aalimah. I can't believe how bad I've become.

Q: I am 28 years old and married. I am a software engineer. I face problems while involving in social daily life activities and feel my self unable to learn and perform even simple tasks of life. In practical life I feel that I am unable to do things. Please guide me according to Islam. And I hesitate to involve in daily life activities as I fear people will discourage (make joke of) me.

Q: I have a problem. For the last one year or so my problem is that my permits went for renewal and it got rejected. Then afterwards either my file gets lost or even when they find my file, then some documents are missing. In short, one after the other problems. Recently someone told us that some staff of mine did some magic on me. Please, guide us.

Q: What is the Islamic teachings or rulings about learning and doing daily things with one's hands. Does Islam encourages one to learn and do his/her things like slaughtering an animal, learning different arts like building house or other such things. I am literate person and a Software Engineer but in common life I do not know things well. I feel great hesitation/problem while learning new things. Does Islam dislikes this kind of behaviour and how can I handle this problem in the light of Islam. I know this type of question may seem useless but as for as I know Islam guides us in every matter of life.