Advice

Q: I'll try to keep this short and sweet. My family is originally from Pakistan and very cultural. My parents are currently trying to get me married as well. My mother claims that she performed Istikhara a year ago for a marriage proposal to her sisters daughter and had a dream where she was at their house celebrating. I on the other hand feel very uncomfortable with this relationship and prefer another woman that I have brought to my moms attention as well. On one hand I can go with my choice and disappoint my parents, or I can go with their choice and regret it myself. Do you have any guidance in the issue?

Q: I gave two goats for my sons Aqiqa. When the first goat was slaughtered I was ok while when the second one was being slaughtered my inner voice was saying that this Aqiqa should not be accepted by Allah. I am really in a problem and doubt as I don't know whether the Aqiqa of my son would be accepted by Allah. Please advise.

Q: I do not know what to do. There was a boy and we were interested in marriage to each other. He was willing to speak to my father and planning on getting married soon insha Allah. Due to a certain fear, and doubt I have put in his mind he is now not willing to go ahead. I am shattered as its the first time I have been through this. We are really interested in one another and I would still like to marry him. With regards to our istikhara, we have both read at the same time, though with different results. He is a bit stubborn too. What do I do in this situation?

Q: I did a great deal of sins and I did many many big sins but now I want to repent. So I repented and felt happy but recently I masturbated while thinking of my aunt and two of my female teachers but now I have realized my sin and I repented and I have promised Allah that I will never repent this sin again but sometimes i feel like Allah wont forgive me or he didnt forgive me. I cried and sincerely repented but sometimes i feel bad so what is it? Is it shaytan? And what are the signs that Allah really forgave me?

Q: My father had a stroke and now has disabilities that require full time care even though he can still walk. The retired wife refuses to look after him. I am his child and married who works full time. What do I do? Put him into care or leave the job then I won't have money to pay the bills. The other siblings also are not willing to help. My father was a religious good man who was a committee mosque member.

Q: My question is should I attend the family wedding or not because my husband has a problem with the uncle who's daughters getting married and my husband is very stubborn and telling me not to go because he wants to hold a grudge not me. It is very close family my aunty (mums sisters daughters wedding) Also because of this reason he tells me and children are not to go to their house either, please advise what should I do? Attend so that I don't upset my family or not go then I will face many questions why. My aunty and uncle are trying to make peace but my husband just will not listen to anyone as he does not like the uncle and his intentions from the past and because or an argument since 15 years ago. I have to face this all the time and if the uncle and aunty are at other weddings. He tells me not to go their either. Should I still attend other function he tells me not to go even though it's close family? Please urgent reply.

Q: I did Nikah with a Hindu man already married and having 2 children. We loved each other and having partnership business. But he has not believed in Allah and the Prophet Muhammed (Sallallahu Alayhi Wasallam). I had been making dua for his hidayat for having a lawful life in future. But today after 6 months of nikah he repeated 3 times the word, Taalaq in anger. Is Talaq happened between us. My doubt is that since he is an unbeliever, so there had been no valid Nikah took place and hence no Talaaq as well. Kindly put light on to this. I really do not want to have any illusion on the cost of my imaan. Allah will reward you brother for your kind job. Please reply.

Q: I am inside very grieved as I was forced for abortion and then for nikaah fasakh as my parents scared me and forced me very much for such heinous acts as my in-laws are too bad people and my parents thought they would kill me. I don't know what to do. How to repent before Allah. Inside I am dying daily.