Q: My father had a stroke and now has disabilities that require full time care even though he can still walk. The retired wife refuses to look after him. I am his child and married who works full time. What do I do? Put him into care or leave the job then I won't have money to pay the bills. The other siblings also are not willing to help. My father was a religious good man who was a committee mosque member.
Q: My question is should I attend the family wedding or not because my husband has a problem with the uncle who's daughters getting married and my husband is very stubborn and telling me not to go because he wants to hold a grudge not me. It is very close family my aunty (mums sisters daughters wedding) Also because of this reason he tells me and children are not to go to their house either, please advise what should I do? Attend so that I don't upset my family or not go then I will face many questions why. My aunty and uncle are trying to make peace but my husband just will not listen to anyone as he does not like the uncle and his intentions from the past and because or an argument since 15 years ago. I have to face this all the time and if the uncle and aunty are at other weddings. He tells me not to go their either. Should I still attend other function he tells me not to go even though it's close family? Please urgent reply.
Q: I did Nikah with a Hindu man already married and having 2 children. We loved each other and having partnership business. But he has not believed in Allah and the Prophet Muhammed (Sallallahu Alayhi Wasallam). I had been making dua for his hidayat for having a lawful life in future. But today after 6 months of nikah he repeated 3 times the word, Taalaq in anger. Is Talaq happened between us. My doubt is that since he is an unbeliever, so there had been no valid Nikah took place and hence no Talaaq as well. Kindly put light on to this. I really do not want to have any illusion on the cost of my imaan. Allah will reward you brother for your kind job. Please reply.
Q: I am inside very grieved as I was forced for abortion and then for nikaah fasakh as my parents scared me and forced me very much for such heinous acts as my in-laws are too bad people and my parents thought they would kill me. I don't know what to do. How to repent before Allah. Inside I am dying daily.
Q: I am a 31 year old muslim woman with 3 kids. Mine was an arranged marriage and my husband was insistent to marry me due to my Deen inspite of the physical differences between us. He is tall, slim and handsome whereas I am short and plump. Later I came to know from his mother that they weren't impressed about our marriage due to difference between us. I told my husband to marry another if he wants. Later I came to know that he is interested in internet dating with women. We had to stay apart due to circumstances and I am staying with his father, mother and brother in laws. He used to come every 6 months but I noticed that he wasn't interested in sex although we were apart. For three years we din't have sex even he came every 6 months. Later I found messages indicating he had sex with more than one lady and was financially supporting them. He admitted it on questioning him and replied that he loves me only therefore didn't marry anyone among them. Me and kids went to stay with him for 30 days abroad in UAE on visit and found condoms in his cupboard, pornographic video in his personal laptop. I still decided to forgive him and pray to Allah. My father in law used to wake me from sleep by knocking the door. Recently while I woke up from sleep I found my father in law staring into my private part raising my dress. I didn't react on seeing this as I felt it will affect the whole family. My husband is abroad. On complaining to him he blamed me for sleeping without locking the door with key. My husband is responsible towards his parents and looks after me and kids. He takes me and kids to mosque, also cooperates in all charitable activities especially Zakat. He helps my family too in times of need and sends us more and enough money but I am deeply confused as to what to decide in my life with him because we are away from each other and communicates less when he is abroad. I can feel his love only when he is with us. When he is abroad its mainly his financial support that he tries to give me rather than love. Should I continue living with him seeing only his positive attitude satisfied with his money or take a stern decision to leave him? Expecting your reply at the earliest so as to relieve my mind. Thanking you in anticipation.
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1. I was unfortunately involved in an illicit relationship with a girl who was in the same class as me. This was last year and it was the final year. With the Fazal Karam and Ihsaan of Allah Ta'ala I changed my life. Allah Ta'ala gave me the Taufeeq to not let my gaze fall on this female from just before Ramadan till now. The only contact we had after Allah Ta'ala guided me was I sent her an email with past exam papers which seemed to me as a necessity. May Allah Ta'ala keep us guided and save us from the traps of naffs and shaytaan the accursed. However, before turning away, the human feeling of emotion made me tell her that I would still want to marry her, etc. I don't know if she is "waiting for me" or what. After listening to advices and bayanaat of the pious, I would like to do my nikaah as right as possible and in in a manner that's most pleasing to Allah Ta'ala so it can be full of barqat. Something that started of with haraam can not be the best way to go forward. My heart is not inclined towards something that was a means of me displeasing Allah Ta'ala. What should I do? I have intention of settling down Insha Allah.
2. I had a dream of my madressa principal saheb (D.B) informing me that he was fortunate to have me as a student in his madressa. The total opposite is true.
Q: I am a 26 year old boy from India. I have a non-muslim (Hindu) girl friend 25 years old since 5 to 6 years. I explained her about Islam and its beauty. She got a lot of knowledge about Islam and now we want to marry and live together. But we have two problems in our way:
1. My family doesn't know about our relationship so far and my father is a heart patient, he faced a heart attack recently. Due to Indian culture and society he will never allow us to live together.
2. If I leave the girl then she will have to go back to her past and I am afraid her family will marry her with a non-muslim boy and she will not able to become a Muslim in the future after knowing facts about Islam. I am confused, if I marry her my father may not able to face this situation. Please give me the best solution. I want to know what is best in the way of Allah.
Q: I have one question that recently I used to think about having zina with different girls but it was only a thought. I never even think of doing it in real. So is it haram is islam?
Q: I am from India. This academic year my graduation will be completed. I was planning for higher education. My parents want me to join in the family business. I am so helpless because higher education is my passion; without my passion I can't live comfortably. I actually mean I won't be alive. Since my parents are angry with my weird attitude they took me to a Mufti nearby. He suggests me to live up to my parents wish. I need an independent life. Is being independent a crime? What should I do?
Q: What do I do. This is what my husband sent to me as as result of an argument we had about being intimate or the lack of intimacy. I must admit that I mistook sex for love. I watched porn yes. Sometimes the feeling of sex is great satisfactory fulfilling and sometimes the feeling of making love is beautiful. "I must also admit that I do get tired of having sex, or making love with the same person for 26 years, but it is my duty as a husband to deal with this. I also have a problem showing affection at times(most of the time)."