Advice

Q: I have been with a muslim girl for 3 years. We did things which were haraam. I did promise her that I want to marry her because it is not good to do such things without being married. But the fact is that I tried to marry this girl, and talk to my parents. But my dad and mum don't like this girl, because she is not of our "cast" and she seems not behaving properly because she has a strong way of talking. I mean that she talks roughly and my mother is now looking for another girl for me to marry which will be a better muslim, and better according to her for me. Now the problem is that, the girl I told you previously is suffering because I left her. She is like oppressed and she is saying bad things to me, like I will suffer all my life, that my parents did wrong with her, that I will have a very long life and I will see how things happen with my siblings or my children. In fact she is just telling me to fear Allah. But I do fear Allah. I ask repentance for whatever I do with her. I pray for her so that she has very good health and that she lives a long life. The problem is now she is suffering, she told me that she is deeply suffering and it is all because of me. Please tell me what should I do? Should I marry her even if my parents disagree or should I be with her, even after all the things she told me. I am not feeling very happy to marry her? (neither is she, maybe). I am very scared of Allah and don't want anyone to suffer. I just want her to be happy. I feel very bad for her, and I am just confused right now. Please tell me what should I do according to Islam. I would be grateful for your help. May Allah bless you for the help you are giving to me.

Q: I have had really bad skin and acne and being a teenage girl it has affected in many ways, it has also hindered me from gaining full benefit from my knowledge about Islam as it has affected my confidence and makes me feel quite low. Is their any advice and Duas I can recite to get clear skin and for my heart to be able to put full trust into Allah and keep me steadfast through this difficulty.

Q: My husband recently visited the United Kingdom where his parents live. He was there for three weeks. On his arrival I happened to find watsapp messages that he had sent to his ex wife. They were explicit. And obviously he was asking her for sex. She in turn was insisting that they must make Nikaah first. When I questioned him he said that he just did it for no particular reason. And he doesn't like her or want her. I'm so confused and upset and I can't trust him anymore. Further more he goes to the UK quite often and I won't know what's he getting up to there I'm in dire straits. I don't know what to do. Can I get a fask on these grounds. I really cannot take it anymore. Please help me.

Q: My husband's brother's wife always tries to get free with my husband and she never puts a veil in front of him and always try to get closer to him in front of me. His family always supports her and they always say that if he will stop talking to her the family will be break. She always tries to tease me and show me that my husband should pay more attention to her and I really don't know what to do with her and how to behave. I love my husband so much and I can't bear any woman coming near to him. Before my marriage he was a friend of her's because she is also his cousin but after me, he is being very limited to her and I think that lady just can't bear him being limited to her that's why she is trying her best to drag me away. Please give me solution. What can I do with this lady as I love my husband so much and I can't bear that woman.

Q: My husband walked away from our marriage (like many minor times in past) giving me the reason that he doesn't trust me, his parents will make decision for his life, he is dependent on them, his family will decide to who to name his business to and how his marriage life will move on. I live in USA and he came here because of my sponsorship, and since he has been here, I truly feel that he has gotten weak in this relationship of ours since he came to USA, and he was guided wrong about me by his family. He fought with me because of the things he was fed. He told everything to his family and didn't leave any room to uncover me and our marriage in front of others, as much as I try to hide our problems and to solve between us. He then never came back to me to resolve things and it has been 3 months. He stayed with his family, cared for them and cared for his business instead of saving the marriage. I don't know if I can trust him with my life one more time or not. I don't know what his intentions are for future even though he wants me back. Honestly the way he is doing things is as if he is picking the wrong time to do things and all his actions/deeds have not shown that this relationship is his priority. I seek guidance from Allah and I request some help or guidance for me and what should I be thinking or doing in this conditions.

Q: I am in love with a girl who is my aunts daughters. I want to legalise this relationship by performing nikaah with her but my parents are against it due to internal disputes with my aunt. Will it be right if I go against them as I see no chances of they getting convinced and if I want to convince them suggest me ways of convincing them. I feel very depressed and confused.

Q: Last year, my girlfriend became pregnant. I tried to make things right by making Nikaah (I did not make Nikaah immediately). Unfortunately, things got complicated and I think under the influence of her mother and family members, she wants nothing to do with me and doesn't allow me to see my child. In fact, she has taken out a court injunction against me so I cannot make any contact with her or the child or else I will go to prison on the premise that if I see the child she fears that I will abduct the child and take the child to Pakistan. Her family is adamant that they do not want me to have anything to do with her or the child! I have tried to talk in an amicable manner with her but to no avail. I have not seen her or the child for about 3 or 4 months now. I send things for the child via a third party. I wanted to know Islamically, what can I do about this? What advice can Hazrat give me? Do I divorce her? How can I get to see my child again? I am aware that I have made a terrible mistake and I have asked Allah for forgiveness but I am struggling inside. My heart is burning because I cannot see my child.

Q: I recently got married to a man I thought I knew. But I have found out he is not the person I thought he was. He will chat different women on social medias. It used to bother me then. I got over it and tried to over look. For the past two months I was happy and we never argued as he continued doing what he always does. Then the other day he put a picture of him and a woman he met on social sites on his whatsapp. I couldn't believe my eyes. Me and him come from the same circle I felt really ashamed like he could do such a thing. When I confronted him he told me that's his page he can put what he wants. This really got me angry because I felt he has disrespected me. I decided I can't deal with him and just to ask for a divorce. My question is will my reason be valid or I will be committing a great sin. I don't want a divorce but he is pushing me to call it quits.