Advice

Q: My problem is I am suffering from male impotence, is there a wazifa for curing this problem, please let me know.

Q: What causes a person to go through difficulty that earns no rewards because I am experiencing that and I am trying to reform?

Q: Who has more rights on a man, his wife or his mother?

Q: When a non-Mahram comes to my house accompanied by a Mahram, I shouldn't go and greet them right? Like two of my female cousins and my aunt. I shouldn't go to greet them, correct? Especially if one doesn't follow Islamic etiquette?

Q: I have a son who is married. He and his wife both live with us for the last 6 years since marriage. Mashallah they have three beautiful children aged 4, 3 and 1. My son is always arguing and shouting at his mum but she is forgiving. The daughter in-law when asked to discuss issues always starts shouting at both of us saying we gang up on her. I have told them any person that shouts parents and does not listen to them and is not considerate with their parents the doors of hell are open. Am I right?

Q: I suffer from doubts and may have OCD so it makes it very hard for me to make decisions and know what thoughts to listen to. I have always wanted to be doctor and my parents have wanted that too. I was a little unsure lately and I heard that you can make istikhara and it will guide you. I am only in grade 11 right now and I don't have to apply for universities till next year. 1) Should I do it now and then see how it all works out? 2) I have heard that if you go ahead with the action you are seeking guidance for and there isn't any obstacles than it was meant to be but if there is then you should know it wasn't meant to be, I suffer from doubts all the time so making this distinction would be very hard for me. 3) Does that mean like if I failed a test or do bad in a class I shouldn't try to be a doctor anymore. 4) or I don't get into a program at one university but get into another since I didn't get into the first one I shouldn't do it? 5) I have always thought I would be a doctor, so if something like this happens and I still have a feeling like being one, what do I do because I have lots of troubles making decisions because of I am doubtful 6) Is there any way to stop these doubts?

Q: I am having a lot of difficulties with my boyfriends father. He does not approve us being together and he keeps on threatening to tell my family and shame me in our community by saying bad things about me. He is threatening my boyfriend that if he does not leave me he will make our lives very difficult. I think he does a wazeefa as he had dreams about our relationship. We have kept our relationship a secret and only a few of my friends know who have no contact with his father or our community. Can you please help me and tell me if there is anything I can do to make him stop and for him to leave us alone.

Q: My question is my husband gives me money every month only after I have given him all the receipts and given him a full monthly expenses list of everything I bought for the month. Which I say is wrong because you are only giving money to feed your four children and us. Even if he buys something or gets something for 50p he will ask me to give it back to him what he gave me. Alhamdullilah he is a heating engineer and earns good money. Some months he wont give money till I give him a full monthly rundown. Please tell me in Islam is what he is doing right?

Q: I am 22 years, married since 5 years and no kids. My husband doesn't sexually satisfy me since the beginning. I have been patient all these years and now I am stressed and disturbed and I am suffering from other problems but my husband doesn't care for my treatment for babies and doesn't earn well and forces me to be in joint family with his brother's parents and brother's wife. I am stressed and I don't love him. Mine was a forced marriage against my will and I have sexual urges and he leaves me unsatisfied and I am unable to lead a normal life. What does Islam advice me to do. His parents don't understand my problem.

Q: I have been with a muslim girl for 3 years. We did things which were haraam. I did promise her that I want to marry her because it is not good to do such things without being married. But the fact is that I tried to marry this girl, and talk to my parents. But my dad and mum don't like this girl, because she is not of our "cast" and she seems not behaving properly because she has a strong way of talking. I mean that she talks roughly and my mother is now looking for another girl for me to marry which will be a better muslim, and better according to her for me. Now the problem is that, the girl I told you previously is suffering because I left her. She is like oppressed and she is saying bad things to me, like I will suffer all my life, that my parents did wrong with her, that I will have a very long life and I will see how things happen with my siblings or my children. In fact she is just telling me to fear Allah. But I do fear Allah. I ask repentance for whatever I do with her. I pray for her so that she has very good health and that she lives a long life. The problem is now she is suffering, she told me that she is deeply suffering and it is all because of me. Please tell me what should I do? Should I marry her even if my parents disagree or should I be with her, even after all the things she told me. I am not feeling very happy to marry her? (neither is she, maybe). I am very scared of Allah and don't want anyone to suffer. I just want her to be happy. I feel very bad for her, and I am just confused right now. Please tell me what should I do according to Islam. I would be grateful for your help. May Allah bless you for the help you are giving to me.