Advice

Q: I want to remarry. I am divorced and have 1 daughter and 1 son. Someone he has proposed for me and he accepts my children with all aspects so will this marriage be good for us?

Q: I am a 21 years old boy and I am graduating this year in June with an engineering degree. My family is well settled Alhumdulilah and we don't have any such issues financially. I like a girl and want to marry her so to avoid any gunnah and keep things Islmaic we approached our parents for our marriage. Her parents agreed readily as they know me and like me but my parents made an objection. The girl is of good character the only objection they made is that in our Culture we get married after 25 years of age and you are four years younger and don't earn yet. I said okay I will wait a year and get a job and start earning and get married but they making and issue because they think I am not 25 years old and because they want it to be done in their family. So what should I do now as I think I will make a good couple with her. I also did istekhara and got a positive dream for which I consulted a mufti too. Can you please guide me how to deal with my parents issues?

Q: My wife was guilty of adultery and she is repenting. But she is always talking bad about other women that sells themselves for drugs and always talking about other peoples wrongs. Is it wrong of me to tell her to stop talking and looking at other peoples wrongs and look at her own past wrong deeds? and that a married woman that commits adultery is worse than a single woman that sleeps around?I have real concern about my wife and the sin she has committed but she is always pointing fingers at others and forgets about herself. How long must she repent for her zina she committed?

Q: Basically in school we have a special prayer room that we had got for praying zuhr at lunchtime. The imaam is my younger brother who is a Hafiz. There were some brothers that used to lead but now its my brother because its more of his right as he is a hafizul quran and then a few days ago subhanallah while we were praying with jamaat they made there own jamaat right next to us. I think its a matter of the person wanting to lead as I know he is not a hafiz and doesn't have a beard so its not exactly his right to lead. My question is what can I say to the brothers that made there own while our jamaat has commenced? When there are a group of people how does one choose a certain person to lead as I heard there are certain conditions?

Q: My husband is at Sudia Arbia. It has been two year of our marriage, he comes for a total of 6 months and in this duration he does not have interest in sex, and he don't want to keep me with him. I can't control my emotions. What should I do that Allah will not punish me. I don't want to done zina by hand, eyes or the actual zina. Please help and guide me. My husband doesn't talk to me on the phone when he is in Sudia.

Q: I would like to find out something regarding talaaq. My husband and I have been recently divorced due to many issues we have been having along the years. About 6 years actually. Two years ago I met someone and we fell in love, this man loves me and now wants to marry me. I love him too and want to be with him as well. He says when my iddat is over we will decide etc. I want to know if we can still communicate and keep in touch or am I forbidden to him for the duration of my iddat. We are both big business people and are well known in the community so we sometimes need to meet and talk etc. We will not hold or touch etc but sometimes need to meet to discuss the future. Kindly advise. Also he is currently married, he has big kids and does not want to lose them. I have asked him to let me go but this is not an option for him. His wife knows about us and threatens to take the kids away. His daughter will be married soon and will no longer be under the roof. The son is big and will definitely stay with his father as he does not get on with his mum. The smaller kid may be a problem. I understand that he does not need her permission to marry me and she cannot ask for a divorce for this reason. He says he wants to talk to her about a second wife. How does one approach this situation and soften the blow as most modern woman do not want to share their men. My head is in such a mess right now and cannot think straight, please make me maaf, will you kindly answer each part of my confused email. I really appreciate it.

Q: Please help me. I am in very serious trouble. I started to like a girl from the last 3 years. She used to live in Lahore. My parents did give me permission to choose my own spouse and they were very happy.  My mother agreed but my father and brothers were like we are not in this matter it's your own choice. Time passed, we got engaged last year everything was going smoothly. That girl supported me in every possible way. Two weeks back she visited my place for the first time with her mom and my dad and brother rejected her in first look and started to talk very negative about her. They went judgemental about her every negative thing they could find in her they lashed out. The girl is an orphan not to forget and my mom made a commitment to her mom that the wedding will be this year 2015. My mom also rejected her because of their personal reasons. She wanted a beautiful girl for me with a strong family background and stuff. Now no one is on my side. My dad is getting very angry and forcing me to call off this engagement and finish this relationship with her. Tell me what are my rights now? I'm planning to run away because they clearly won't accept her at any cost. Please guide me what to do?

Q: I am a married woman and have three children. I am staying in India whereas my husband is working abroad. I am married since the last ten years. In theses ten years I have seen that my husband is very short tempered. He often gets fits of anger. He is a very loving husband but when he gets upset on anything whether it is my fault or not he shouts at me, insults me, uses bad words for me and my family and even beats me in front of my children, his parents, brothers and sister. It seems as if he has become mad. Many a times it happens that he doesn't even talk to me for months. As a wife I never felt close to him. He is a very religious person but has no control over his anger. I feel very lonely and my life has become a hell. Please suggest me some dua or wazifa for my husband's short tempered nature and to gain his love and respect.

Q: I am going for umrah in April and I have recently been getting a lot of hate at school. When should I make the dua that I can get my friends to like me again?

Q: I would like to know if it is permissible to make istikara if you are still dating someone with the intention of going for a proposal. Are we supposed to read the istikara before? Or after the proposal?Can istikara be read before without a proposal? Just to know if that person is meant for you and no families have been involved.