Advice

Q: My brother's daughter has left home to be with a Christian man of the same age (21). This has brought great shame on her parents and despite pleading with her to stay, she left the family home. Until now she was very obedient but now she says she has no belief in Islam and does not want to be a Muslim. It pains us to hear this from her and her parents have made a decision to disown her. Her father has told us all that if we have any contact at all with her we will also be disowned. She is now living in a very poor and sad situation, missing her family but not wanting to return to the life of religion she had before. My question is how should we all, as a family, deal with this? It has torn her parents apart who have decided that in order to continue to please Allah they must not see their daughter any more. They have demanded her siblings end contact also. If she continued her relationship are they right to behave in this way? Or should there be contact and support in the hope she may return. If this man converts to Islam should she then be accepted back? Please advise - nobody knows what is for the best for this confused young lady. Surely Allah must judge for her sins and we must show compassion in the meantime.

Q: I'm feeling a bit depressed right now. I realized I have been committing a sin called eaves dropping a lot and I had forgotten about it during this whole time. I also have done a lot of looking inside of other peoples houses not on purpose though. I feel very depressed and I know that you can't lose hope in Allah but I'm already at the stage when you do durood that you get cursed back (I feel worse when I do durood). What am I supposed to do when a lot of these things are not repairable. (I don't remember everyone that I have done this to). I am also in a difficulty where I am not being able to do Salaah,(mental disability called psychosis). I have black magic being done on me all the time. My is mind and my knowledge is getting messed up and rectification is extremely difficult.

Q: I have found some YouTube websites for ruqya recitation on marriage issues and problems. Please can you advise me the best one to stablize the marital life with love, peace, harmony as much as possible and also that what time of the day and how many times in a day or week should we listen to the recitation of it.

Q: If a woman doesn't love her husband and her husband doesn't care for her and there is no reason to hold on to the relationship (no children) and the husband is lazy and there is no compatibility and she is not happy with her husband, what should she do? Is she forced to be with him in Islam?

Q: My husband drinks alcohol and me being a doubtful person feels that when he drinks my whole house and anything he touches will be impure. Like pillow etc if he drools after drinking. I keep cleaning the whole house and its very stressful for me giving me very wrong thoughts at times. Even if I have to wash an alcohol glass which I keep separate in the sink, I feel the whole sink is impure and I keep cleaning it and the side areas. Please help me it's driving me crazy as I feel everything has become impure including utensils ill wash in the same sink. Please help. My life is getting ruined and I'm having very wrong thoughts.

Q: I need some guidance. Every time I complain to my husband about his family's injust behaviour, he doesn't accept even though he knows that they are wrong. My husband doesn't say anything, not even one single thing that why do they do like this? If they hurt me, disrespect me, to whom should I complain? All the time my husband gives reasons of his own workload and then in the end he complains to my family that I'm against his family and I'm disturbing him. My family can't interfere so they consider me wrong. If I directly complain to my father-in-law, he doesn't accept that they can be wrong. f I avoid going to them, my husband doesn't accept. As a human being, if I find all doors closed for me, what can I do then? Doesn't that damage me?

Q: I can't seem to get over my wife's infidelity. This happened a year and few months ago. I can't stop thinking about it and I feel so hurt. My heart can't bare it. What can I do to get over this. I'm still with her and she is repenting for her sins. Is there a dua that will help me.

Q: Can my good deeds, charities, prayers and every ibaadah be accepted if my intention is only for Allah but my sincerity is weak? Due to satanic whispering and other distractions? Thanks.

Q: I am a young sister in Islam who has been going through many trials over the last 8 to 10 years. Amidst all of this, I seek comfort that Allah Ta'ala will one day ease my difficulties. A Summary of these trials, my mum has been battling a fatal illness for many years. Together with my dad being very ill, I lost my father two years ago. I am currently not married. With my mum's illness, she has been in and out of hospital, leaving me to dwell alone. My question is:

1) I have no one to support my mum and me and hence I work in an accounting firm. They allow me flexibility, so I work certain days from home and certain at the office. Please advise if this is permissible in Islam?

2) I own a credit card and very rarely use this. Most of my purchases are made on cash. Please advise if this is totally not permissible in Islam (meaning to even have one in your possession)?

Maaf for these questions, reason is I feel as if though my trials are getting harder per the day, affecting me emotionally with loneliness and much more. Hence I fear I may be engaged in some sin that prevents ease at home and opening in life for nikah and betterment in this world, which has prompted me to query the above two questions. I am currently fully in hijab and strive each day to be a better muslimah. Kindly remember me in your duas.

Q: I need a sure and definite answer to this question. Actually, when I close my eyes and concentrate, I can see things and visit places and communicate with the jinns. I also get feeling when something bad will happen. Some months ago, my sister was very sick and I got the feeling that it was a sorcery. My mom knew a person which also know these things, so she called him and as I concentrate, I could describe the person who had done the sorcery well and the person which my mom called communicated with him through me as intermediate asking the shaitaan or jinn where he comes from etc. Sometimes, they take my body and I talk things beyond my comprehension. Finally, the person, through recitation of Quran, the jinn was forced to break the condition of the sorcery like coconut, blood and lemons etc. and some were burnt and some converted to Islam. I could see them burning and becoming ashes and some converted to Islam and go to mecca. My sister was then recovered fully from the disease. I want to know if this is allowed to use the inner eye or is it and how is it shirk? The power is in me but I don't know if I can make use of them. I have read about roqya to recover from black magic but the black magic is very complicated and powerful. Sometimes, the jinns or shaitaan have protection and they does not get affected when reciting quran. If it is not allowed to use the concentration or inner eyes to break the black magic's work, how can we combat it fully?