Advice

Q: I am in a relationship with a girl who is my relative since the past 7 months and I really love her a lot and have strong plans of getting married to her. We got physical a few times as in kissing and touching but never in intercourse. I even talked to my parents about this but my father doesn't agree due to relationships going wrong between her families. My question is how do I convince my parents on this and will I be considered as disobedient if I go against them and is there any way I can repent for my sins. I am really confused and I want to get married to her in accordance to Islam and can't think of any alternative.

Q: How should a person who belongs to a modern family and has been guided by Allah Ta'ala deal with his family? If the family does not observe pardah, listen to music, watch movies etc. How can this person interact with them so their feelings are not hurt and he is away from haram? Should he openly state that since a certain action is haram he will not allow it or get involved in it or should let this happen while trying to explain them the dangers until eventually they stop themselves?

Q: When I feel awkward or low continuously for two to three days then the next I fast and I feel relaxed. I want to know if there is anything wrong in doing so?

Q: I just wanted to know if it is right for my wife's mother to come fetch my wife against my will when we have an arguement then her mom tells her we must leave each other?

Q: My parents are married alhamdulillah and my dad did a second marriage. It's been 2 years. He wants to keep both of his wives together in one home but my mother feels hurt seeing the other woman again and again. What is the rule for these circumstances in Islam? My father says my mum hurts him by asking to stay separately, he says he won't forgive her so in akhirat will there be any harm to my mum? What is her duty and her rights if she doesn't want to stay together with another woman?

Q: I have been married for 13 years and have five kids. When we have an argument or misunderstanding, my husband upon getting cross would say swear me and call me harsh ugly names and when I say i'm going to leave him then he says where am I going to stay? Then I would say he must move so that kids lives would not be disrupted. (We stay in an out building by his parents. Both of us are responsible for the building of this house) then he tells me iI must move because this is his house. Then he would swear me out again and again. When I said I would take the kids with me as I am always here for my kids. Then he threatens me by saying he would kill me. A week later he plays amnesia and says he is so wrong. But after a few days then he doesn't think he is wrong anymore. I have been for a fasakh but because the Maulanas knows him, they don't want to phone him. This is recurring situations and I always get sworn at. I am so tired of this behaviour. Now when I say I am tired of this and I want to leave then he wants to ban me from teaching (Quraan) or having a phone or even driving. Please help me as I am tired of his lies. Everytime he wants to make up he says I have no grounds for fasakh. Please help. Also I would like to add that teaching hifth is my passion and I would not like to leave it. Since I have been teaching, my daughter who is in my class is finishing in a weeks time Inshallah.

Q: I am facing a problem with my testicles they are hurting due to not having a sexual intercourse. What would be a solution to that since the optimal solution would be to mastrubate (and it's haraam). I am not married because I have not enough resources for that.

Q: I want to marry a girl from a non-muslim (qadiani) family. She has accepted Islam and my parents agreed with me. The problem is that her parents who are still qadiani want me to become temporarily qadiani for marriage purpose, to save their reputation in the community. They promised that after marriage we can go back to Islam and they will have no problem with that. My question: Is it allowed to become temporarily a qadiani only for marriage (only on papers)? I tried everything to get another solution but without any success. The girl doesn't want to leave her parents in such a way and hurt them. I also consider the consequences of my decision, if I let her fall she could return to kuffar and marry a qadiani as her parents wish. If I marry her, I could bring a kafira to Islam. Please answer my question in the light of Islam.