Advice

Cooperation in a marital relationship

Q: Its almost going to be two years of my marriage. I have a kid who's mashallah going to be 3 months. I don't know what is wrong with me and my husband. We have lots of arguments and lots of fights for useless reasons. Where I try to make him understand certain things, he does not listen and things I am taunting him. In result we stop talking to each other for a week. This happens every two weeks. Please advice what has to be done.

Befriending kuffaar

Q: I have a best friend whom I hurt very badly because of a male friend. She feels hurt and we don't have the same relationship which we used to have before. She is also a non Muslim. What should I do? Even if I try to sort it out I don't think she will forgive me. Should I leave it or sort it out? What is the solution according to Islam? Please help me out.

Concerned about being overweight

Q: I've always struggled with my weight and its something that always makes me feel ugly. Last week my father told me I look horrible and no man will ever marry me. I've become depressed and cry a lot. I have started dieting. My question is: Since they say Allah has predetermined our spouses, will the man I'm suppose to marry not like me just because I'm overweight?

Marital problems

Q: My Husband's mother is a non Muslim and lives as a lesbian. I don't want to be seen in the road with her and do not like going there, nor do I want to send my daughter. My husband thinks I don't like his mother but it's the fact that her lifestyle is disgusting and I am trying to protect my daughter from this. Am I wrong in not wanting to be associated with her and don't allow my daughter to go there without my husband or myself?

Keeping a distance from one's sister

Q: I have an elder sister. She is not a good woman. She is a woman with bad character. She is married but had many affairs outside marriage. She is always in modern clothes and not Deeni at all. She just wants to trick men and sleep with them. I hate her. She also does gossiping about me to my friends. I am planning to get married soon. I fear that if she meets my husband she will try to tempt him and fill his ears against him. So, I want to stop talking to her so that she does not interfere in my married life. Can I do that? Can I stay away from her to protect my marriage?

Nazar

Q: We often hear about nazr and the effects on babies etc. Can mufti saheb please explain the concept of the child's own parents nazr having an ill effect on the child? How does one prevent this?

Marital problem

Q: Me and my wife had been married for 5 years. We have two kids. She is a very caring and loving wife, but due to some unwanted silly reasons, she can't accept my family members and wants us to stay away from them. We have a fight between us most of the time for this reason that she wants us to get separated from my family. Now she is even asking for divorce if I can't stay with her accepting the fact to exclude my family members from our life. My father, mother, brothers and sister hadn't done anything to harm her, but still she doesn't understand. Moreover I feel like she is trying to follow her mother, who has done the same thing with her father's family. But since her father was silent and listening to her mothers decision all the time he accepted it. But I am not able to accept this method of breaking relations. Kindly do let me know, what shall I do. Should I continue with her and break my family relation or accept her request for divorce?

Getting married when one has a sickness

Q: I am physically weak. Eight years ago I used steroid to become healthy but it reacted to pain in my liver area which is still with me since 8 years. Now I am 27 years old. Medical checkups are still unable to diagnose my illness but I am getting ever more weak and pain is increasing day by day. Now my family wants me to engage and get married. Please guide me to the cure for my disease. Am I allowed to marry if there is a severe disease (maybe cancer) in me which can lead to be major problems for me in future or decrease my age.

Becoming infected by one's husband

Q: I got a sexual infection. I went to the doctor, the doctor said it was only sexually transmitted disease. I was infected by my husband but from where did my husband become infected. Allah ka shukar hai there is no big problem to cover the disease but I am confused about what am I to do with my husband? He is very nice with me and the kids but the fact is he cheated me. Please guide me.