Avoiding areas of doubt
Q: My wife goes for Arabic lessons at NMJ. The organisation has been getting a lot of negative feedback from Ulama. Please advise as my wife is going there for conversational Arabic and they do hadeeth and tafseer as well.
Q: My wife goes for Arabic lessons at NMJ. The organisation has been getting a lot of negative feedback from Ulama. Please advise as my wife is going there for conversational Arabic and they do hadeeth and tafseer as well.
Q: My husband refuses to find a job and has not been working for the last 2 years. He spends his days sleeping and watching TV. He also has a tendency to lie about everything and incurs debts behind my back. Is this a valid reason for talaaq?
Q: A man's been trying hard for a job for sometime. He attends interviews with his kurta, adamantly maintaining that success lies in following the dress of Nabi (Sallallahu Alayhi Wasallam), even if that means he has to go hungry, yet his spouse and family implicate that he is affecting his chances of obtaining a job because of the impression it creates. What advice would you tender to assist the man in this case and give him strength from the inevitable doubts created in his mind by his family?
Q: My question is regarding the ruling about living with in laws. Bring in UK for six years, I was living with in-laws for four years. Things are fine with brother in laws, they are yet unmarried and nearly of my age. We have limited, controlled good relationship. But my issue is with parents. In a small nutshell specially my father in law has not accepted me though I'm his relative. The wedding was fully arranged by my mother in law. She is ok with me. Good days bad days. But still she is not very open minded educated women. All this I came to know after coming here. As they were far relative. And on the time of wedding enquiry done by my parents, they lied and she told wrong things about their aqeedah, about husband's education (which is far less than me) his health physical and emotionally. His religious level (far far different approach than mine). She kept everything secret. I came to know very slowly when I came to him. It was too late then. As when I came to know I just lost my 34 years old brother in an accident very suddenly in the same days. It was very very big time for my parents in Pakistan. Mum got sudden Stroke. So I had to keep my mouth shut and show a happy face to them. With time I have two kids. Alhumduliah. (May Allah keep them safe and pious) But the first girl with in laws was not very lucky for me as they become very very harsh rude and unjust with me. It was the time I went to Pakistan and was ready for separation but after six months I came back with very very bad heart for the sake of the girls future. Husband is never a husband for me in front of his family. By the will of Allah we got a far away flat in London when I was pregnant with a son. It was very very hard time. Health wise, emotionally, mentally. I was coming out with bad heart with broken emotions I had nothing there to see shining since 2008/2012 I had many big small fights. I heard many bad things for my parents. So don't even call their house. I heard bad bad scolding. I was utterly emotionally dead. Can't forget those words, those eyes. When I got moved. I again tried to keep good relations, going to visit them weekly. Stay at nights whenever possible. To show care. To let them play with kids and let them feel happy. Forgetting past. But even then his dad insulted me whenever he gets reason or not. I think he hates me utterly. He never see any any good thing in me. Now question is my husband and his parents really want me to move back and stay with them. So they will have kids all the time. They are forcefully saying. I'm stuck no way. He says I miss them more I want to live with them. My kids should grow with them. I had bad experience to last month. When he shouted at me for twice for no reason infront of everyone. My kids wants to go as now we are in flat. There they have Garden and full house. I know soon they will be very nosy with me. However limits I will keep. I will be insulted. I will be scolded. I will be emotionally tried. My husband will be only dummy in front of them. My kids will be out of control fully. As they don't tell them to listen to your mom. I can go back. But I'm very very affraid. Please help me what should I do. Here houses are at high rent. And if luckily we will find anything they will hate me more. If I will go they will scold me more. Soon another brother in law is going to be married . she is from UK. A love marriage. She will be compared and more pressure for me. Kindly help me in the name of Allah. Guide me to best path by the will of Allah. Save me from wrong decision. To go back. How.? If stay how to avoid therefor hatred for me. I am alone very alone in this country. Nothing to seek sincerity. But big big thanks to Allah as He is with me. (kindly forgive me for bad English, bad spellings. May Allah I have told the truth. And may my question is clear for you)
Q: My wife and I separated due to her being being unfaithful. She was pregnant with my child at that time and I didn't issue her with her 3 Talaaqs. During the period of separation the guy she was caught with went and got one of his "contact moulanas" to do another nikah with my wife.
1. So I need to know what is that status of my marriage?
2. Is her second marriage valid?
3. If she wants to come back must we make nikaah again or I just take her back?
4. How do we go about reporting moulanas who mislead and do wrong things?
Q: I am from Bhopal - India. I am working in a US based IT company. I am a married person with one daughter and living happily with my parents in my own house. My question is basically related to my career. I totally believe that whatever is written in destiny by Allah, it will happen and no one can change it. I am offering Salaah on time. My company allows me to go to the Musjid for Salaah and the salary is also not bad. But my friends and relatives are continuously asking me that you are losing your career and opportunities by living in a small city. You should go to Metro cities and should work for big companies. There you will have a good salary, will get a chance to go abroad and many things I will get there. I am really very confused now. If I follow Islam then I should have to stay with my parents and family even if I'm not earning well. If I go with my career, then I will have to leave my parents, family relatives and many things. Kindly suggest to me what Islam says in terms of choosing career options? Should I leave my family and earn money or should I try getting things in the same city where I am living.
Q: Is it harm if I put poop on my penis because that reduces my sexual libido?
Q: I got engaged on the 3rd of August and joined university on the 4th August. I fell and fractured my leg in university itself on the 5th of August. Since then im not able to attend university. There is always something bad happening since then. My fiance and I, we never argue, but since our engagement we argue on every single matter and even when there is nothing to fight or argue about. I am feeling something is not right between us when everything is fine. I don't feel like talking to him much. And since I fell, I am having bad dreams each night and I am feeling and having an intuition that something is wrong and bad is going to happen. I read 7 darood 7 fateha 7 ayat ul qursi 7 four quls 7 darood and kalma before I sleep and still I am having these bad dreams. I am not being to perform namaz even on bed because I had my haidh but I am reading duas i know. I also feel presence of somebody when I am alone, even in namaz i feel somebody behind me and I feel very scared in my house. All this is happening just after the engagement. I dream about snakes on me, people and dogs running after me, haunted houses next to my house and people asking me to stay alert etc. Please help.
Q: At night I do sex in my imaginations. I want to avoid it, help me.
Q: If I am married for 11 years and my husband never really had a steady job he hardly buys me and our kids clothes. When he does get a job now and then he only buys food, once a while gives me a few Rands to buy me something. Is it permissible to divorce him?