Advice

Q: If someone does not want photos to be taken of their baby and they know their grandparents are taking in the quiet, must they tell them not to?

Q:

1. Can a person make islaah of their parents? What about aspects that are not deeni related eg. a bad social habit should one bring it to their parents attention?
2. I understand that out of respect islaah of an ustaad cannot be made. What must a student do if they see their ustaad doing something eg. Taking photos, etc.

Q: I am a concerned parents whose twin boys are doing hifz. The moulana is quite strict on them and thats not a problem for me but both of them are so scared if he has to ask them anything they both just stare at him and keep quiet. The Moulana is particular about tajweed and their grounding for tajweed is not good. So for that we are also at fault. They had been going to another ustaad for 3 years and had not done their hifz well. They were playing. So we decided to take them out and this year march they started by a new Moulana. My main concern is that the Moulana sent me a message saying that my boys have been with him for three months and they have shown very little progress. They are quite dedicated because they are up from 4.30 and go to Madressa at 6 and return home at 5.30. They have a break and they are back learning at 7. Please help me to overcome this fear.

Q: I wanted to know if there's anyway to keeping a relationship halaal. I know that seeing a girl is haraam, touching is haraam. But, what if I talk to a girl on Facebook? Just a simple chat to know her very well! I will not see her, no phone contact too. I'm a student and until I get settled and get married with her, I would like to talk to her on Facebook just for a few minutes. I ain't making any zina, right? When I start earning, I will talk to her parents. My parents do allow for love marriage but in a halaal way. I don't believe in arranged marriages. I don't trust girls of today's generation! I want to go with the halaal way. Please guide me with correct answers.

Q: I need help urgently. I have been married for more than four months. We have had problems with the husband's family and them not likening me and I also have been taking my anger out on my husband but now he has left me at his mothers house and not speaking with me or letting me know where he is! I am really scared and I want him back. Please help me. I want my husband to understand me and come back to me and his family to stop causing trouble for us and he is being controlled by his mum, sister and his family.

Q: My question is that, I loved and liked one Thai girl. She also loved and liked me and she agreed to become a Muslim and marry me but she suddenly changed her mine maybe because of her sister. She confirmed with promises and she was ready to become a Muslim and marry me after her graduation next year. But now what happened to her. I love and liked her too much and I am very upset and sad and now I can not sleep and can not eat. My condition is not good. I would like to ask you that, I have true and real love for her and I want that she becomes a Muslim and marries me. If my heart and mind and love is 100% true for her from my deep heart, will I really get back to her and will she contact me again? Kindly  tell me any wazeefa for that.

Q: I was harassed sexually by force by some people. Is it my mistake and will my prayers be accepted by Allah Ta'ala. I am a male.

Q: This evening, I was in a shop about to pay for my shopping, when a woman, who seemed to be off her head, came into the shop and began talking away incoherently with the shopkeeper and myself.  She seemed to be on drugs or drunk or something. She had some shopping gathered, and about to pay for it. Amongst her shopping, she had some beer cans (alcohol). As she was talking to me, she kept on touching the back of my left hand with her index finger every now and then, so as to get me to sort of agree with her on what she was going on about, and also as a way of making a point.  It was harmless, but I felt uncomfortable. But just after she had paid for her stuff, one of her beer cans fell out of her bag on the ground, and I picked it up and gave it to her. That was it. I know one shouldn't deal with alcohol in any way, but I went ahead and picked the beer can up (knowing alcohol is haram) for her and handed it to her! Is there any sin on me due to this? And what is the ruling on this sort of thing, i.e helping someone pick up their beer cans/bottles after they had dropped it on the floor?  What can I do to make up for this if anything? How about the woman tapping me on the back of my hand, as a way of emphasising her, incoherent points? What should I do in this case?