Advice

Having an illicit relationship

Q: I spoke to a guy vulgarly about sex which is not permissible in Islam but I realised my mistake and asked forgiveness from Allah Ta'ala. Will Allah forgive me for my previous sin? Now I am going to get married with the blessings of Allah. Please suggest what to do for maghfirat.

Getting involved with a married woman

Q: I am involved with one woman. She is the mother of 3 kids and she got a husband as well. I am trying to get rid off her but I can't control myself. We are working in the same place. It is not that I love her but if I don't talk to her, I feel strange. I feel very disturbed. She always ignores me. She always hurts me. She never values my feelings. She sleep with her husband as well I know. But she never admits it. I want to go away from her. But
I can't change my job. She works there. She treats me as a slave. Whenever she feels, she talk otherwise no. I just want not to even think about her. Please tell me something.

Marital problems

Q: I am my husbands second wife. We married 9/10 years ago without anyones knowledge i.e my family. He promised and swore he would ask for my hand in marriage after his visa issues were resolved. Alhamdulillah last year July he got his visa issues resolved after nearly 12 years, he went back home to see first wife, I accepted all this but now its time for him to accept me with my families knowledge and he won't. His sister and brother in law have also tried talking to him telling him he is oppressing me and doing injustice with me as he has kept me waiting 11 years. Please could you give me some Dua I can make for my husband to treat me right and also accept me properly Islamically. We live 5 hours away. Whenever I have met him and spoke to him on his face he has reassured me and then when I leave he cuts everyone out, no one is sure why he is doing this. He has told me and his sister he loves me. Is this shaitan stopping him doing the right thing? He is not active in prayers but does pray Jumma. Please advise what I can pray or which dua I can make for my husband?

Attention Deficit Hyperactivity Disorder

Q: I am in need of some advice as I face a serious problem. I believe I have something called ADHD/ADD (Attention Deficit Hyperactivity Disorder/ Attention Deficit Disorder). This results in me procrastinating to a very large extent and it leads to depression. I can barely get down to work and when I finally do I can not keep my concentration sustained at it. I constantly feel sleepy yet when it is the right time to sleep I take hours
obtaining sleep which results in me falling asleep at around 4 am or later (nowadays I just resort to staying up later and reading tahajjud and fajr.
This does have really bad consequences as I am a student at university. But I try really hard to resolve this but I feel as though I no longer have a will. Please advise me, this problem I have suffered for many years and now that I am alone in university it has only intensified. I make duaa that Allah helps me find a solution through this means insha'allah.

Taking things in one's stride

Q: I am 24 years old preparing for civil services. Since two years I am suffering from anxiety and panic attack. I consulted a psychologist and done all things but I have not benefited from that. I also consulted a Moulana but could not get desirable results. I am always worried and can't do my studies properly.

Unable to make ends meet

Q: I am an adult male (45) married with four kids at home. I am employed as a casual earning R750 per week, barely able to make ends meet and I can't even cover my rental which is 4500pm. My question is my family refuse to assist even with zakaat. What am I todo?

Marital problems

Q: I am married and have children. Throughout my marriage, I had a lot of problems, but I stayed in the marriage because of my children. The problems were mainly related to my husband going out with friends and returning home late at night and not showing us any attention. Also, he spends a lot of his time watching porn and speaks freely to women. What should I do? I only cry and feel helpless. I want to leave. What does Mufti Saheb advise me to do?