Advice

Q: I have been teaching in a maktab for a few years اَلْحَمْدُالَّله. However I have been late a couple a times over the years. I didn't keep record of the times I was late. I feel guilty for this khiyanat I have made. I tried to estimate the time and I calculated an approximate amount. I now want to pay back the jamaat. The issue is the jamaat doesn't want to take back the amount saying that coming late occasionally can be overlooked. I am in the employ of the jamaat and sometimes if there is a ghusal of mayyit to be done during madrassa hours I do the ghusal. Mufti Saheb do I subtract that time from madrassa time too? What would be the ruling in my case.

Q: I have been for Hajj already but the person I am taking has not, but my dad asked me to instead use that money for an additional extension to his
house. What do I do? My dad has been for hajj as well.

Q: A few days back I was just leaving home to go to masjid for salaah and my uncle (who is an Aalim) came unexpectedly with some friends to drop off a parcel. I asked him if he is coming to the masjid and he said no (They were musafir). My mother was alone in the house and none of them are her mahrams so they obviously could not be in the house while I went to masjid, so they had to drop off the parcel and leave immediately. This Aalim seemed to be upset because I went to masjid and did not accommodate them. Did I do the right thing or was I supposed to miss salaah with jamaat to accommodate them?

Q: I met a girl on facebook 2 weeks ago. We became good friends in only one day and the second day I told her that I love you. She also responded
positively but after two days I prayed namaz and I felt very guilty of myself for getting involved in such a henious practice as I had never done this before. So I told her to forget me and I cut off all the contact with her but now she is saying that you betrayed me. She regularly calls me but I don't pick up her calls. I only left that girl for the sake of Allah. Please help me out, have I done right or have I betrayed her really? Will I be punished for
hurting her? What should I do now? Please help me mufti sahb.

Q: My sex desire is finished. Therefore my marriage is about to end. I am feeling very tired day by day.

Q: I have a really serious problem, I love my prophet Muhammad (Sallallahu Alayhi Wasallam) very much but sometimes I have waswasa against him. I can't write the thoughts. Please help me.

Q: I have been diagnosed  with OCD - a mental health condition and I have had it for around 2 years. I have been a mental health patient in the UK for a long time as well and I am also on anti depression medication. At one point in the past, it took me around 60 mins to read a four unit fard
zuhr prayer consisting of surah fatihah and surah Ikhlas. I have also had severe problems with wudu and ghusl. Because my prayers are too long, I have not been able to get a job, or go to University. I don't know if my illness will ever leave me and it has been destroying my chances of earning a halal income-which is wajib upon me. Is it permissible for me with my illness at the time of need so that I can earn a halal income/ study/train to order to earn a halal income to miss: 

the sunnah aspects of the prayer
sunnah prayers
sunnahs of wudu
sunnahs of ghusl

Otherwise I fear it with my health problem, life would be very difficult for me in the future.

Q: I have met this guy on facebook. At first we use to chat and just be friends and then one day my parents found out and I stopped talking to  him. After a while I got in contact with him again. I really missed him and realised I was in love with him. Now that I speak to him, he knows I love him and he has asked me to marry him and would I talk to my parents? I don't want to do anything haraam. I have tried to forget him and I couldn't. Is there anyway, advice or duas that I could pray to help me with this. I rally want to marry him and have a halaal relationship.

Q: How does one love others (e.g. parents, siblings, friends etc) only for Allah Ta'ala?

Q: I am currently living with my parents and I have endured many difficulties during the past nineteen years of my life. My father is extremely verbally abusive to us I.e my mother and siblings and dawns all his anger on me. I try my best to be obedient to him and I can't recall when last I haven't obeyed his commands but he persists in lashing out on me and forcing me to do that which is haraam, he also never spends on us and we are often left  stranded and miserable. Can you please give me a method in which I may quell his anger or make him realise his actions unto us are wrong?