Q: My mother in law has passed away but when she was alive she created hatred in my husbands mind for me. When problems get worse I curse my mother in-law and say I will not forgive her. I try but cannot do. Will I be questioned for this on day of judgement. But she made my life hell.
Q: I have a cousin who is in a marriage where him & his wife hardly speak to each other, they don't have an intimate relationship since they have a daughter who is 5 years old. She argues with him unnecessarily. Since the past 15 years he has been living like this. The reason being she didn’t want to come live with his mum after his father passed away. She told him I will make your life a hell. He has given her 2 talaqs but his mum tells him that he should not divorce her because the family will talk& him & his Mums biggest fear is that he won't ever see his little daughter again. He said that this marriage is just pain & hardship.
Mufti Saab in this situation what should he do?
Q: My brother goes out at night with friends and comes home late, it happens quite often and he doesnt pay much attention to his wife or daughter, whenever we tell him not to go or stop him he argues and fights. Please mufti saab could you help us by telling us what could we do to stop him?
Q: My question is about waswaas. Sometimes I can't tell if I acted upon a tought or not or like commited riya though I dont want to show off. Also, I know that the shaytaan puts whispers into the hearts of the believers wich have iman but what if you like commited kufr before will you still get these toughts so it means you have iman? This is confusing me. So that means if someone commited kufr before, but he still gets waswaas means he still has iman and hes a muslim? Also while I am confused am I commiting kufr just by being confused by this?
Q: I have a dangerous kind of waswaas wich disturb me alot and keep me sometimes depressed. It is about kufr and shirk som can you give me tips on how to deal with them? Also, while I was home alone I heard a sound and I was quickly like whats that. I tought to myself what if there is a jinn there (I know we cant see jinns but i didnt remeber at that time) so I turned my head quickly to see. Then when I was looking I realized that we humans cant see jinns. So did I commit kufr?
Q: Many Muslims do not do marriages according to Islamic rulings these days. In my family, my elder brother got married but I did not attend his marriage. I think that where Muslims do not apply sunnah of Rasoolullah Sallallahu Alaihi Wasallam, I should not attend such celebrations. They marry like non-muslims, so I think we should not attend such marriages. I want to know if my thinking is correct?
I am asking this because I listened in lectures of Ulama that a believer should stop evil with hand. If one have not so much power to stop with hand, one should try to stop evil by mouth i.e. saying about the wrong. If one have not even this ability than one should feel it evil. Because of this this, I don't attend marriages where Islamic rules are avoided.
Q: I am a devoted Muslim and do my best to follow the rgiht path with my parents. However despite loving my mother and dedicating years of my life trying to keep her company and happy I find now that I am struggling to cope with her overbearing ways. She hates that I want to get a job or have a friend to the extent that she asks me not to go out to see anyone unless she is also involved. I am getting old and want to get married and have a life but with her demands on me that will never happen. I feel that the stress is taking a toll on my mental and physical health and am getting very low. I don't want to upset her though but now I feel she has made me sacrifice my own life for her and that is not right. What can I do?
Q: I am very despondent at the moment as I feel that I will never be able to visit Makkah and Madinah because I am not earning and also do not have financial means to go. I feel that I will never get a chance to go. Please make dua for me to go and also advise me on how I can change my thinking and be hopeful in the mercy of Allah.
Q: Please help me. I am very very sad my mind is getting freaked out. Few nights ago shaitaan overtook me and coming under the wasawis of nafs and shaitaan I became a beast. My 10 year old maid liked me (I knew that by her shyness when she looked at me). When two nights ago I came to her bed her she got up and asked who's it, I told her that its me. She was smiling. Shaitaan and nafs again overcame me. I showed her blue prints and I don't know what bad deeds I did that night. At last we had intercourse and lost her virginity as I erected, my mind got freaked out that what I did. I started crying. Mufti Saheb that little girl is still quite since that night. She says I have forgiven you. Mufti saheb I ruined that girl's life I am very ashamed please help me. She is just 10 year old. She still likes me but because I asked her that don't let me touch her. So since that night she is quite. She is good looking. Mufti saheb I ruined her life. Please help me guilt is overwhelming me. I cant do any work. I can't see her like this. Mufti Saheb I am a practising Muslim, pray 5 time a day, Qur'an, beard and I asked my mother for getting me married since last 4 years. But they didn't do that. So lust overcame me and this resulted. Please tell me now what is the way for sincere repentance and what is the way that my maid forgives and forgets everything she is very very innocent. She didn't know anything. She is very innocent. Please tell me what should I do? I am very tense my business is effected very much please help me.
Q: My girls have some health problems like thyroid and cholesterol. Do I need to disclose them or hide them at the time of their marraige. Since my marriage is in trouble and my husband is against marrying the girls early, what would be appropriate for me to do? I feel that our house is not favorable for them to flourish and they don't have any social life and they are Alhamdu-Lillah very good girls. They already suffer my health issues and our divorce issues since they are 5. I want to marry them early (early teen) so that they can lead pious lives.